to be jealous

[Faye12345]

Aibu to be so jealous of and admire people who dont stress or overthink everything? I look at friends who dont appear to worry about every aspect of life and man im jealous!

But what are you jealous of? I mean I get a lot of jealousy about my life but I wouldn't wish my stress on anyone. Nice house, enough money but going through the kind of hell I genuinely wouldn't wish on my enemy.

Just because someone doesn't drama or talk about their pain doesn't mean they have what you want. If you met me you wouldn't have a clue.

Jealous might be a bit strong but i find myself seeing people who are laid back and dont sweat the small stuff and wish i had their attitude. I can be such a stesshead and over thinker

But they might be as well.. You just don't know.

Some people have a good game face.

I stress all the time but no one would ever know it. It's an act. Note this use of "appear"... Yep, is t most probably an act :-)

I don't stress about stuff or overthink it. And I'm never hard on myself (who better to give me slack than me!). But can you not work towards feeling and behaving like that? Or do you think we are all built the way we are built in relation to this and can't be changed?

I get told I am laid back and bubbly.

I am neither. The bubbly bit is an act that I use to get through the day.

The laid back bit is also an act so I don't melt down in public.

But I am vey stressed, I just keep it all in. I would say only dh knows the real me. My parents don't even know. Everyone thinks I have a great stress free life. It's all an act.

Don't be jealous, you don't know what's going on in these peoples heads.

People may think the same about you, you may feel stressed inside but people may not notice on the outside.

I am another internal stress head, I have just started mindfulness to cope with some of this and to filter what I don't need to stress about.

I used to stress. Then I had two traumatic events and don't as much. I am much happier. Most people can learn to be less stressed. Meditate, keep things in perspective.

It can be done with practice.

Yesterday I saw someone lose it about what to do with their elf on a shelf. Were there underlying issues unrelated to the elf or was the elf the issue? Whatever it was I remember being stressed about minor things.

I like this quote
Lao Tzu
“If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.”

Rather than feeling jealous you could work towards being that way yourself. CBT would be really helpful I think.