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to think cooking two fillets of fish for one person is a bit much?

325 replies

MarianneSolong · 01/12/2015 18:43

I'm going out. Spouse is cooking two salmon fillets for himself. I think it's a bit greedy and he should either have just one - or save the packet for a night when we're both in.

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mrsmugoo · 02/12/2015 11:21

I do think it's a bit extravagant but hey....yolo

LurkingHusband · 02/12/2015 11:28

Sharing an 8oz steak

MrsLH and I have surf/turf with an 8oz steak between us (sirloin if we're splashing out, rump otherwise) with half a bag (8 pieces) of scampi between us.

(Plus 100g oven fries, fried egg and pies.)

MarianneSolong · 02/12/2015 11:29

For what it's worth. We're on a lowish income. Husband retired, me working part-time.

We eat well and are both reasonable cooks. Quite a lot of pasta, wholemeal bread, rice, fruit and veg. Fish a couple of times a week. Rather less meat than many people would have. Very little convenience food. We enjoy cooking. My husband is about the same height as I am - below average height for a bloke. He's quite busy, but not dashing about working 9 to 5 and commuting etc etc. So he'd been at home doing stuff all yesterday. We'd had a cooked breakfast - so plenty of protein - and he also eats porage then too. (I don't) I think there'd been baked beans on toast at lunchtime, plus a banana and dried fruit, then more toast and jam at 4.

He's the one who fluctuates more between saying 'We ought to be vegetarian' but then wanting to meat/fish for supper after he's had bacon for breakfast. I'm probably more consistent in terms of the amount of animal protein I cook. (One vegetarian supper, then a fish/small amount of meat supper the next night. A really meaty main dish just once or twice a week.)

We do probably keep an eye on Government guidelines etc about fruit and veg, red meat, oily fish etc. My husband is keen to have a long and healthy retirement. But it doesn't feel joyless or self-denying - if there's something we fancy, as a rule we'd buy, cook and eat it.

I was probably being a bit irked by other aspects of his behaviour yesterday. He and I have both agreed that supermarket portions of fish aren't huge and domestically (though not necessarily on Mumsnet) Fishgate is over.

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Enjolrass · 02/12/2015 11:31

Aldi have some canape sized ones. Just perfect for Boxing Day dinner. Two/person is more than enough, to go with a thimbleful of sherry.

I knew I forgot something....thimbles for Christmas drinks...thanks for the reminder Grin

Enjolrass · 02/12/2015 11:32

And the suggestion that the woman must be the one making the man eat less meat

It's the OP that's judging how much meat he should eat.

Enjolrass · 02/12/2015 11:33

Fishgate.....love it!

MarianneSolong · 02/12/2015 11:36

Oh and the steak dividing, shopping, and cooking was instigated by him/is his doing. We'll often have the steak with a creamy mushroom sauce, rice or spuds and a couple of veg. It's delicious and we're both very happy with it.

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TesticleOfObjectivity · 02/12/2015 11:39

It's the OP that's judging how much meat he should eat.

She's just saying to mumsnet that she thinks it's a lot, not holding a gun to his head.

amitho · 02/12/2015 11:40

You're going out. He's having a wild night in. Cracking open TWO salmon fillets! Wahey! #thuglife

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/12/2015 13:37

God maybe if he ate more at breakfast and lunch and dinner he'd not need so much other food in between.

how can.it be cost effective to split a steak when he's already had two breakfasts a snack and jam on toast.

seems to me more should probably be spent on ensuring the portions of the meal are substantial enough to last him than eating twice as much to make up The shortfall.

MarianneSolong · 02/12/2015 14:23

As he and I share the shopping and cooking 50/50 there's probably a good deal less portion control going on than in many households. (Last night was something of an exception. Hence the posting)

My husband always does the breakfast, and I reckon most people would regard scrambled eggs, mushrooms, wholemeal toast and marmalade plus a bowl of porage as a reasonable start to the day. (He's got a fast metabolism, and particularly needs a decent meal first thing.)

I've got no doubt that many people do have bigger portions at evening meals, in particular. But he does want to keep well and active and not overdo the red meat and chips sort of eating. We're both a healthy weight, so by and large what we do works for us.

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Enjolrass · 02/12/2015 14:29

She's just saying to mumsnet that she thinks it's a lot, not holding a gun to his head.

Where did I say that? I said she was judging him, which last time I checked is a mental process that doesn't include holding someone up

CobblerBob · 02/12/2015 17:24

You're going out. He's having a wild night in. Cracking open TWO salmon fillets! Wahey! #thuglife

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BeStrongAndCourageous · 02/12/2015 17:30

Yeah, this is why so many are fat - lost all concept of portion control. YANBU OP.

FannyTheChampionOfTheWorld · 02/12/2015 17:37

Did you discuss his controlling behaviour over the kettle?

HormonalHeap · 02/12/2015 17:45

Just Shock salmon fillets can be pencil thin, he obviously fancied two...problem?

SarahSavesTheDay · 02/12/2015 17:59

Yeah, this is why so many are fat - lost all concept of portion control. YANBU OP.

Yes. Behind every obese person in the UK there's an excess of McDonalds salmon.

Enjolrass · 02/12/2015 18:00

Yes. Behind every obese person in the UK there's an excess of McDonalds salmon.

GrinGrinGrinGrin

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/12/2015 18:07
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SarahSavesTheDay · 02/12/2015 18:07

We do probably keep an eye on Government guidelines etc about fruit and veg, red meat, oily fish etc.

Why? Surely it's better to stay current with nutritional advice that's not subject to all manner of political nonsense?

For example, there is a growing body of evidence that fasting is the key to health and longevity, and I sincerely doubt the government would ever advocate this.

SarahSavesTheDay · 02/12/2015 18:08

Unless you meant medical guidelines when you said government guidelines.

ShelaghTurner · 02/12/2015 18:20

Speaking as an obese person, I bloody love salmon. Watch out people!

batshitlady · 02/12/2015 18:43

Right stingy bugger you sound OP.

batshitlady · 02/12/2015 18:48

I meant Puritanical bugger

ovenchips · 02/12/2015 18:53

Aye, the spriti di Po lives on happily in parts of this thread. Grin

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