To wonder why this woman was staring at us?

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It was really odd. In sainsburys cafe at lunch time. Me, my dnan and my two dd's (3 & 6months). We were sitting at the table, 3 of us eating lunch, I fed dd2 at one point, then we sat chatting, minding our own business whilst we finished our drinks and dd1 are her snowman biscuit treat thing. Sometime during the meal a woman and her 2 dc's sits at the table next to us, didn't pay her much mind, until I noticed her staring, well more like glaring at us. At first I ignored it and assumed I had happened to catch her gaze. Carried on minding my own business. Then we were getting ready to leave and again I noticed her staring again, I'm pretty sure she even gave me there 'up and down' look, I was concerned that I might have spilt something down my top but I hadn't. She even stared at us as we were walking to the trolley bay and whilst we were getting our trolley.

I know it shouldn't but It's been bugging me all day wondering why she was so obviously glaring at us and what we could have done to have caused her to do that, we weren't being loud, dd1 was sitting nicely in her chair, dd1 was on my lap. I wish I had said something at the time but I'm really not a confrontational person and I felt quite intimidated by it actually. I also didn't want to cause a scene in front of the children.

Not really sure why I'm posting this, some people are just strange aren't they?

Bloody hell howto don't be bringing Hopkins into the ruckus! (assuming you mean Katie and not Anthony)

Senpai, I'm guessing you're from America and didn't get the memo about the preferred terminology surrounding disablism, ageism and sexism?

Have you checked your spam folder?

MMW

I bloody knew you were American, Senpai.

Happy (belated) Thanksgiving!

I think I may be drunk.

Cheers. :)

I've got 3 more Thanksgiving dinners to partake in before December starts. @_@

As a fan of turkey I am very envious.

Although pumpkin pie and candied yams have always made me o.O.

Have I been watching too much Everybody Loves Raymond or have you ate a lot of these this week?

Yep, and will be the next week. :) The best part of the holiday is all the leftovers and turkey gravy sandwiches you eat the rest of the week.

Yesterday we had:
Turkey
Gravy
Stuffing
Green Bean Casserole
Yams with marshmellows on top (they're mashed though, not candied)
Cranberry sauce
Mash potatoes
Fruit Salad
Bread Rolls
Apple Pie
Pumpkin Pie
Cookies

We have another Thanksgiving with mixed company of vegetarians, vegans, and carnivores. I'm not sure how they're going to manage that. I'm just shutting up and bringing cookies to share.

Dual heritage!!!
Really?
Sorry but the world has gone mad.
I'm half Indian, half English.
Never in a million years would I use that term to describe myself.

I stare with alarming regularity.... I am on super strong meds for pain and epilepsy and I drift. My partner is always hissing 'stop bloody staring' at me.....

Senpai I loved your story... especially the 'I am awesome' bit. :) Too darn right.

Green bean casseole..... is it true it is made with campbells mushroom soup on the top? I have to try it.

Anyway. I have been given daggers a couple of times by complete strangers in my life. Once when DS aged 4 was sitting perfectly nicely in a cafe where we were having breakfast. he was eating away, occasionally chatting, flicking through various holiday leaflets. A couple kept tutting and glaring. It really unsettled me because I could not see what their problem was.

I am glared at often (and on one famous occasion actually snarled at) by a woman who is vaguely in our social circle. Her DH has a habit of getting pissed and hitting on me. One day I will yell at her 'i keep turning him down you silly. Save your hisses for him'.

It pisses me off to be honest.

I am multi-heritage..... Russian/Irish/Scottish/SouthAfrican with a bit of random White Other thrown in as well.

Well this thread took an interesting turn

1. I am an accidental starer at times, I don't mean to but it's not until DH hisses 'stop staring' that I realise I am. I'm usually deep in thought about something else!
2. there was a memo (from MNHQ?) about terminology? Why didn't I get it? I checked my spam folder just in case!

I was walking to work one morning when this guy passes by staring intently at me, right as we pass he throws a can of red bull at me! It misses but I turn around, give him a mouthful and he starts walking back towards me with the most malevolent grin I've ever seen. Complete psycho!!

Why the question about Hopkins being adopted?

Senpai was ok, hag...fine, bitches, fine, used the word old, oh no, she's going down into the pit. That words not allowed.

If I saw someone being rude to a waitress, I would tut too. I hate this kind of behaviour.

Have I missed something? Who was being rude to a waitress, cleaty? I certainly wasn't

No I know. One of the other MNers who commented on the thread and complained about two women tutting about her family even though she says herself that her DC was badly behaved, and her FIL was rude to the waitress.

Oops sorry for causing a kerfuffle a page or two back. I did actually think carefully before I posted send but I do not know how that person identifies, and I think me staring was so much worse because they did not appear to have been born as a member of the same sex as me so I wanted to fit that In the story... Well so far doesn't seem my post has been reported, but thanks for the warning howto, it did cross my mind.

Sorry for derailing op!

In the UK I think most people still say mixed race, I thought US said biracial? Did mn really send a memo?

Testicle - I have had a similar experience where I stared at someone in the street convinced I knew them. It wasn't until they got closer that I saw that they were a stranger, and had a large birthmark. They probably thought I was staring because of their birthmark, but I hadn't actually noticed it until they got closer.

Apologies Cleaty, I must have missed that post.

Yeah I often think very deeply and find I'm just looking/staring at people (like when sat in a cafe) but not really registering what they're doing so certainly not glaring. Maybe there was a bit of this.
And needing glasses/contacts at times I sometimes look around and not really see people but can be looking at them if that makes sense (I know that sounds weird.)

My mums eyesight is terrible. She can look like she is staring at someone, when in reality all she can see are vague shapes of people.

DS is adopted from a different culture/race/country but has grown up in the UK so he is what I would call multi-cultural. In practice I (rarely) say he is part-Kazakh and once had someone (who isn't mixed/multi/racial/cultural) say to me rather sarcastically "Oh which "part" of him is kazakh?" - I presumed referring to some people's prefered term of bi-racial.

"The biological part".

I don't stare though.