To wonder why this woman was staring at us?

[imwithspud]

It was really odd. In sainsburys cafe at lunch time. Me, my dnan and my two dd's (3 & 6months). We were sitting at the table, 3 of us eating lunch, I fed dd2 at one point, then we sat chatting, minding our own business whilst we finished our drinks and dd1 are her snowman biscuit treat thing. Sometime during the meal a woman and her 2 dc's sits at the table next to us, didn't pay her much mind, until I noticed her staring, well more like glaring at us. At first I ignored it and assumed I had happened to catch her gaze. Carried on minding my own business. Then we were getting ready to leave and again I noticed her staring again, I'm pretty sure she even gave me there 'up and down' look, I was concerned that I might have spilt something down my top but I hadn't. She even stared at us as we were walking to the trolley bay and whilst we were getting our trolley.

I know it shouldn't but It's been bugging me all day wondering why she was so obviously glaring at us and what we could have done to have caused her to do that, we weren't being loud, dd1 was sitting nicely in her chair, dd1 was on my lap. I wish I had said something at the time but I'm really not a confrontational person and I felt quite intimidated by it actually. I also didn't want to cause a scene in front of the children.

Not really sure why I'm posting this, some people are just strange aren't they?

She was your husbands bit of fluff

Were your children behaving particularly well? Sometimes I look at other parents with envy as my little darling wreak havoc around me.

'She was your husbands bit of fluff'

Only on MN could the possibility of OPs DP (if she has one) having an affair be extrapolated from the scenario she's described

Last time DD and I went to Meadowhall we bought some bento boxes from Yo Sushi and sat down at the tables in the Oasis. We started eating the contents, using our chopsticks. The man at the table next to us kept staring at us, as if he had never seen anyone eating this type of food before. I just kept turning round and stared pop eyed at him until he looked away.

Childish, I know, but it worked

Or maybe she fancied you?

If I ever stare at someone it's because I think that I recognise them but I can't place them and the urgency I am staring at them with is often the worry that I should be remembering their name and saying hello.

Yes I was breastfeeding. I can't remember if I had finished feeding by the time she had sat down though... Could have been that I guess? Conversation wise I'm not sure what she would have found offensive, it was pretty bog standard. I doubt she fancied me, hair scraped back and a big frumpy jumper isn't my idea of attractive

She was definitely glaring/staring, the cafe exit was behind where she was sat, which meant she actually has to turn around and crane her neck to carry on staring, it was really weird. I was worried I was going to bump into her around the store afterwards but fortunately we didn't. I probably would have said something if we had, who knows though

I had this with a man once, I've honestly never felt so chilled. The look on his face was as if he would punch me if he got close enough.
I was in the shop my DH runs, so I didn't feel unsafe as such, but I manoeuvred myself behind several burly friends so he wouldn't come near me and I couldn't see him glare daggers at me anymore. I never found out why, and he never went back to the shop...

Whoops, didn't mean to add the wink smiley at the end of that post.

Maybe she is suffering from pnd or something like that and is on meds. Perhaps she wanted someone to talk to.

Anyone seen Greg Davies on Room 101 describing a specific Spanish person he wants to go down?
I'm too inept to post the link but it's worth looking up for fun and this post reminds me of 'the glare' from a stranger.
Don't worry OP sometimes there simply isn't any reasonable explanation...

I guess that's a possibility sugar but she didn't seem like she wanted a friendly chat, it's difficult to describe over the web but her face told a different story, some people do suffer from resting bitch face though (I'm one of them) and look annoyed/angry when they're not so who knows.

It's interesting hearing all the possibilities and reasons why, I find human behaviour fascinating sometimes. I find myself avoiding looking at people, especially if they can see that I'm looking for fear of making them feel uncomfortable, even if I'm simply trying to check out their dress or hair do or something. I don't really get why someone would do it on purpose and so blatantly unless they just wanted to be a cunt or were looking for some sort of confrontation.

So many possible reasons, I'd love to know the answer now! I've had an evil look shot my way before when I was breastfeeding, that person made it obvious what she had an issue with though).

Once I stared at someone by mistake sort of. We were walking towards each other but on opposite sides of the road. I noticed her because a. She was the tallest woman I'd ever seen and b. She was only wearing a mini skirt, crop top and high heels and it was pouring with rain and pretty cold.

First (as my eyesight is bad, and weather conditions made it worse) I was trying to work out if she had a coat on that I couldn't see. Then I was thinking about her being cold and wet and wondering why she dressed like that in the middle of the day as it wasn't the weather for it. I started thinking about my going out days and how I used to go out with no coat in all weathers and wear high heels and how I couldn't do it now. Then I thought could it be the 'walk of shame' and thought back to a particularly cringe-inducing walk home I did after a ONS once and how awful it was. I was thinking she looks so confident, like she doesn't give a shit, I wish I'd been more like that. So I was daydreaming but sort of about her and while staring at her. Not being discreet at all as I suddenly realised when she waved at me and I then realised she was actually a man. I felt so awful she might have thought that was why I'd been staring at her, as well as being embarrassed that I had been staring!

That could have happened here. Maybe she was staring at you while sort of thinking about you and about her own life and her facial expression didn't mean anything.

I once stared a bit at Rachel DeThame in a shop trying to work out where I knew her from. I was about to say hello as I thought I knew her, thankfully I didn't.

Testicle, I hope you don't get reported for that. They may identify as a Woman.

Reported to who, for what howtorebuild?

Snarky trans-thread associated remark I guess Agent. Some people feel the need to bring these things up as much as they can ever since HQ declared their official stance on the subject in site stuff.

OP, I'm going to go with judgy resting face.

She probably can't help it. :o

Maybe MMW, I was thinking it can't be that because Testicle referenced the person she saw with the utmost respect.

Then I wondered whether she was maybe going to report her to the thought police rozzers or something.

Talk about seeing things that aren't there

Oh! Actually howtorebuild, I just recognised your name and I don't think that's that case.

I'm sorry.

X post. :o

I think it may have been a genuine warning on howtorebuild's part.

I may be wrong! But I would hate to tar someone with that brush.

T wrote 'I felt so awful she might have thought that was why I'd been staring at her' at the end, wouldn't it only have been a problem if T started to refer to her as a him?

Can you imagine?

Innocent poster: Oh my! That may be deleted due the the new rules fellow poster. I hope you understand.

Me: Fucksake, another bigot. Go piss on your house plants you massive fucker.

How rude.

I think it could be the she waved at me and I then realised she was actually a man part?

But I don't bloody know anymore.

I got reported for something that was taken as I hadn't intended. That's a hot topic along and then you look at the username. I thought they could come back and explain themselves just in case.