AIBU for not changing my day out with DD so friend can come

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I have a 3 yo DD and have booked for us to go to a winter wonderland type thing in December before the schools break up so it won't be as busy hopefully I've already got our tickets and paid extra for her to meet Santa and I'm really looking forward to a day just the two of us.

Now my DFriend knows we're going and has decided that her DD would love to go so I should change mine and DDs tickets to go on a day when her DD has broken up from school then I can drive them both with me and we can all go together but I've said no. I purposely choose a date that I think would be better for me and DD and don't want to go when the schools have broken up so just going to keep my tickets and have a daughter day with my DD

She is not happy, apparently I'm depriving her DD of a day out she would love when I could easily change my dates and my DD would enjoy it more having someone else there

So AIBU refusing to change mine and DDs tickets ?

Well bloody done! You should give assertiveness lessons op

Have a lovely day with your little girl

Cut this klingon from your life! Harsh but fair!

wow - you go 'girl' - thats an amazing response! well done - we spend too much time in life trying not to upset unreasonable people!! fuck yeah!! you rock!!

Good for you :)
I'm a people pleaser too and find it so hard and feel all guilty if I go against someone. But it's important not to be a push over x

You did the right thing. Your friend has got a nerve.

Enjoy your lovely quiet day with your DD.

Well done for standing your ground and telling her straight, have a great day just the two of you

Bloody hell, what a free loader!!

Yanbu have a lovely day op

Why don't you go twice?
Go with your own dd on the day you want, and ask her to buy the tickets for you and your dd on the days she wants to go as a payment for the lift there and back?

That way it's a win win.... Though she may not like it!!

Well done, OP.

Thank you everyone I did doubt if I was being a bit selfish but I'm glad people think I'm not. I haven't heard back from her so hopefully this will be the end of it