AIBU for not changing my day out with DD so friend can come

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I have a 3 yo DD and have booked for us to go to a winter wonderland type thing in December before the schools break up so it won't be as busy hopefully I've already got our tickets and paid extra for her to meet Santa and I'm really looking forward to a day just the two of us.

Now my DFriend knows we're going and has decided that her DD would love to go so I should change mine and DDs tickets to go on a day when her DD has broken up from school then I can drive them both with me and we can all go together but I've said no. I purposely choose a date that I think would be better for me and DD and don't want to go when the schools have broken up so just going to keep my tickets and have a daughter day with my DD

She is not happy, apparently I'm depriving her DD of a day out she would love when I could easily change my dates and my DD would enjoy it more having someone else there

So AIBU refusing to change mine and DDs tickets ?

I can't ever imagine asking a friend to change dates for something like this, or then trying to guilt her into doing it, or then throwing a strop about it when she said no.

Forget this fall-out, why would you want to be friends with someone so self-centred and with such appallingly bad manners?

no, yanbu, my eldest ds had an inset day today and I took him to the cinema, just me and him, it was lovely, he was great company, stick to your plans and have a lovely day

If your DD is 3 you probably only have another year, or at most 2, when you can do these things during school time. Make the most of it, have a lovely day and enjoy yourselves. If your DF was any kind of friend she's understand.

Good for you.....

non drivers

Bloody liggers ALWAYS

YANBU, and good on you for standing firm. This would fit in well on the cheeky bastards thread.

Don't let her ruin it. Not your problem if she wants to be a child herself. Enjoy your day.

Bloody hell she is full if shit isent she! She does not sound much of a friend.

"As bad as this might sound I want to go with just my DD it's so hard for us to get the chance to do big days like this that I want it to be just for us"
That doesn't sound bad, it sounds lovely to do this just the two of you.

I am a non driver, and I woukd never ever pull a stunt like that!

Bloody good for you OP.

I'm normally quite a people pleaser not that you'd believe it from this thread and if she had asked to tag along on the day i was going I would have struggled to say no but how she behaved about the situation from the start demanding I change my plans it just instantly got my back up. I've been really looking forward to it and I just weren't prepared to change it

I won't be getting back in contact with her again if she messages me in the future I'll be polite but I'm really not interested to go as low as to say her DD will be disappointed because I don't want to go with them just made me snap

I think it's time to distance yourself from her as she sounds like a rather negative influence on your life

Once it was sorted and I realised it was just me and DD going I just thought how nice for me and her to do something special just the two of us and for her to have my undivided attention

Have a great day with your daughter.

I thoroughly get wanting a special day with your daughter.

She's a cheeky mare.

It would have me as well. Very manipulative behaviour on her part there.

She sounds a lot of bother. I'm impressed that you were so clear in your text.
I am really defensive about time with my kids and hate it if friends gate crash cause then I have to talk to them all day instead of kids. Why on earth would you want to go to winter wonderland except to engage with your delighted little one? Well done.

I can't drive. I'm a fucking boss at wrangling train timetables and railcard discounts though. Please don't tar all of us Brenda.

Her next trick may be to pull her 5 yo out of school for the day....

I was so straight in the text because I knew she weren't going to drop it and I didn't want it to be dragged on and on so I thought better to be abit blunt and brutal so there were no misunderstandings

Even if she did pull her DD out of school that's her choice I hope she arranges something nice because there's no way she's coming with us. Me and DD are going completely alone crosses arms and means business

What a knob, not a friend imo. First rule of day out planning, don't tell the child until it's arranged and confirmed. Well done for your reply.

Tell her to piss off!
It is a day out for the two of you.Can she not take a hint?
I would just say the reason you are telling us on here. You are wanting a special day with just the two of you for quality time.
She is BU

Good for you for telling her what's what - have a lovely day with your DD.

I'm a non driver and I'd never even think of inviting myself to come along, let alone expect someone to change a day for me. Cheek.

Suspect I'd have similarly lost it at her response though OP