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Aibu to want to do damage to the little scrotes?

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Iwanttokillthem · 24/11/2015 20:49

My Dd is in Y11 and is a hardworking girl who just gets on with her work. She always in the top 5 in class and is well regarded by staff and other pupils

Yesterday 2 boys from her year ( not her class) took her coursework book from the classroom and then burned it on their way home from school. One of these bright boys took a video of the burning.

There were rumours around school will day until eventually Dd realised it was her book. She is devasted at the lost coursework and school don't seem to have reacted at all .

I will of course be going in tomorrow

Besides trying to stop myself from skinning the little bastards hides what can I expect school to be doing ?

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Namechangenell · 24/11/2015 22:40

Oh wow. Hideous behaviour.

This is what you do.

Speak to the exam board yourself. Use the procedure they tell you to, not the school. To be honest, they sound crap anyway. Why wasn't coursework locked away?

Go into school and arrange a meeting first thing. Have someone with you to take notes of everything that is said. Show them the film. Demand that the culprits are expelled.

Post meeting, head straight to your local police station and show them the video. Give them names if you have them.

Make it very clear that your DC will not be redoing anything and that based on her grades to date, she needs to be awarded no less than 95% or whatever her average is for this piece of work.

I'm sure that the school will be most amenable if you threaten that the film will be on the local news by teatime if they don't assist your DC in every way possible. I'd also want an apology from the school for their shit handling of everything to date.

IguanaTail · 24/11/2015 22:41

No they won't try to convince you not to phone the police. I actively encourage parents to ring them. There's no reflection on the school - it's not logged as the school it's logged as the students doing it. Agencies work together.

Of course the school won't want her to have to sit and do it again so of course they will contact the exam board and explain what has happened. After that it's up to the exam board to decide. The school can't guarantee what the exam board will decide.

SallyMcgally · 24/11/2015 22:44

Just a thought, but it may be that tampering with another candidate's exam constitutes misconduct with the exam board, in which case these boys might be banned from sitting their own GCSEs, at least for the current round.

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 24/11/2015 22:46

What an awful thing to happen.

Happfeet2911 · 24/11/2015 22:56

I'm with you, the little fuckers need a serious thrashing, not PC I know, but trust me, kids like that don't understand anything else!

IguanaTail · 24/11/2015 22:57

I don't think it would count as misconduct because that assumes misconduct in your own exam.

Bananalanacake · 24/11/2015 22:59

Would this have happened if we still had the cane? think about it, if they KNEW the punishment would be a severe thrashing in front of the whole school, their parents and the PTA would they have done it in the first place.

IguanaTail · 24/11/2015 23:01

Yes - there have always been arseholes.

IguanaTail · 24/11/2015 23:02

And the PTA? The parent teacher association?

catfordbetty · 24/11/2015 23:04

The cane only worked on the pupils who didn't get cane.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 24/11/2015 23:08

OP you are not expected to keep tabs on every word they write at this age, especially if they are doing OK. Letting go is the right thing to do.

You are leaping into action now when you daughter needs support.

You're fighting her corner in a shitty situation that she could not be expected to deal with by herself.

You're a brilliant mum Flowers

Atomik · 24/11/2015 23:15

To grab the video from YouTube...

Go here

www.clipconverter.cc If you have Windows, or know somebody else who does...

paste the link (get it from the share button) of the YouTube video. select download. An ad page will pop up in a new tab. Click download again. Select save as, save to desktop or another folder. Takes a while if the video is long but it'll get there in the end.

I am so so sorry this had happened. My son is studying for his IGCSEs this year. Which is stressful enough as it is without somebody deliberatly sabotagueing your efforts.

Topseyt · 25/11/2015 02:30

You may need to go into school in person and insist on a meeting.

Don't come away without at least an appointment having been made.

TheNewStatesman · 25/11/2015 05:41

Do not rest until they have a criminal record.

What a pair of little shits.

alltheworld · 25/11/2015 05:50

Go to the police now with the video...it is up to them to investigate not up to you to wait......and wait for the school to give you the whole story. If this is the second time your dd has had trouble from these boys they could also be done for harassment

mouldycheesefan · 25/11/2015 06:25

How awful but would the police be remotely interested?

mouldycheesefan · 25/11/2015 06:25

'Be done for harassment' , what does that mean? That a criminal trial will result?

IguanaTail · 25/11/2015 06:26

Yes they would. Arson and criminal damage are serious and they like to try and catch them young so that they can try and steer them on the right path with youth offending teams

Enjolrass · 25/11/2015 07:03

I am always surprised that people think the police won't do anything when it's children of school age breaking the law.

The age of criminal responsibility is 10z

These boys stole something, set fire to it, filmed it and put it on YouTube.

They intended to permanently deprive the OPs dd of something that is hers.

Of course the police would be interested.

CheesyNachos · 25/11/2015 07:23

I hope you have a good outcome with the school today OP, and I agree if they do not take it very seriously then the police should be involved. (Maybe involved anyway).

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 25/11/2015 07:25

Schools are linked to community officers. They would rather early intervention than tje alternative.
Getting tje police involved highlights how serious this is.
DD school had an ipod stolen Y6 and the community police made it known they knew, they also did an assembly, when Y1`s were caught pinching swets from the local shop and warned of a blanket ban.
It surprises me when people dont want them involved!

Lauren15 · 25/11/2015 07:34

Agree with all who say you must involve the police. Your poor dd.

Twowrongsdontmakearight · 25/11/2015 07:34

I echo what everybody else has said on here. YADNBU. I too would want something nasty to happen to them as this was pure nastiness.

Re lost coursework. Could it be an exercise book with notes in it rather than assessed coursework? DS does his controlled assessments in school but if he lost his exercise books he would be devastated. He would need them for revision for his actual exams. If so photocopying a claasmate's notes might be a start.

wowfudge · 25/11/2015 07:34

OP - it sounds as though you need to get more info from your DD as to what the work was. In addition to getting the culprits dealt with, I would also want to know what the school is going to do with regard to the staff member who left those books out with that unsupervised pair and what measures they will put in place to ensure this doesn't happen again.

Fratelli · 25/11/2015 07:34

I'm sorry but I would be going to the police. I'm furious on your dd's behalf! They're messing with her future potentially. Contact the exam board too. What awful people. Shame on them and shame on the school.

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