To be annoyed about some odd reactions to news that I'm expecting a boy?

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Dd is 3. Just found out we are having a ds. I have 2 dsis as does dh. The responses so far:

My mum: I don't know what to do with a boy
My dad: We'll love him regardless...watch out for the spray!
Dsis: Are you disappointed?

Childfree friends:
Oh. How do you feel about that?
I hope he's a good baby.

Colleague with a ds: I hope you've got a lot of energy.

I'm fully prepared to be told I'm being over sensitive. Dh has had nothing but congratulations. Is it the assumption that he has wanted a boy?

If I'm honest with myself, I had it in my head that it would be another girl, despite the obvious chance it could be either. I'm scared they won't have as close a bond with each other and of the finances - much less clothes hand me downs etc. These comments aren't helping to reassure me. I'm getting excited for our new arrival, but it's been a struggle with the odd comments. I don't them.

I just DON'T GET IT! I had the same shit as a mum of two boys.....and then after a gap a DD.

My boys are funny, clever, loving....what is the difference really. It never ever bothered me and to say it did would be a massive insult to my sons.

When I went for a scan we had to take our two boys as we had no childcare. The lady at reception upon booking us in asked if we were hoping for a girl this time around. I politely told her we already had 2 girls (eldest dd was on holiday with grandparents and step-dd was with her mother) so it didn't really matter.
We haven't found out so I'm just finding the "do you know what your having" questions rather annoying. I just answe with 'a baby' although I did tell someone it was a hermaphrodite. That got an interesting reaction.

I have ds1, then dd and then ds2.

Upon finding out that dc3 was a second boy one of the school playground helpers said "oh dear"

WTF? Like ds2 was a hideous disappointment?

Yanbu but I think you have to expect random opinions if you tell the sex early. Just like if yòu tell the name early.

I think they are odd reactions too, tbh.

Wrt your concerns, well: I have 4 dcs: 1 boy followed by 3 girls. Ds and dd1 are really close. They always played well together & have the same interests. Dd1 & dd2 are polar opposites and fight like cat & dog. Personality is far more important to whether siblings get on than sex.
My boy is my calm, helpful child. My youngest, who is a girl, is the most energetic child of the lot. She doesn't sit still for 1 second and is always up to mischief.

Oh and my experience is that most people with 2 children have 1 of each. Funny how another poster had the opposite in her environment.

Well you obviously have doubts about having a boy as well .

OP I had EXACTLY the same comments from my mum and sis too!! Are you me?! How strange. And totally unhelpful

When I had my girl after having a boy already I was thrilled to have one of each and I got told a family with one of each is called a millionaire's family as its considered as good as winning the lottery

A millionaires family?! As if families with two or more girls/boys don't feel like they've won the lottery I have a girl and a boy but I would have been deliriously happy with 2 healthy children of any sex.

Wait until you have more kids. Then the really fucking hilarious comments begin.

"Don't you have a TV"
"You've got your hands full"
"Was 2 not enough?"
Yada yada yada.

Someone was even brave enough to comment "I bet you get a lot of benefits with them lot". Hmm. No. Not. A. Penny.

And no, "I'm not having anymore"

It was just what was said to me as I guess there are plenty who do want one of each. Obviously we don't actually feel like millionaires as two lots of everything to buy! At least it was a positive thing to say unlike some of the weird frankly miserable things some people seem to say.

Ps I would have been happy with either, but after a while people kept telling me how great it was I started thinking one of each is lucky and nice. A healthy happy child is the more important thing and to have children at all we are blessed.

I have two sisters , five nieces and two daughters. When my son was born I made the same comment about not knowing what to do with a boy. I didn't really mean it, it was a kind of reaction to the surprise. He is 21 now and I seem to have managed quite well :)

I have a 3 year old dd. My ds is 15 weeks old and we are besotted. I am besotted! You will love the bones of him. Don't let anyone make you doubt how special this little one will be to you.

This sort of thing does my head in. A friend found out she was pregnant with DS3 and got so much shit, she was actually really upset.

The only really correct reaction to that sort of news is "How nice! Boys are fab!"