To think no one cares who the song 'You're so vain' was written about?

[Fantasyland]

Honestly I think I may be a bit unreasonable but It's not a mystery everyone is dying to find out or are they??
The way it's wrote about in the media it's the greatest unsolved mystery we must find out.
One guy paid a load of money to find out who Carly Simon wrote the song about but was sworn to secrecy and now he must be incredibly pissed off as Carly Simon has said one verse of the song is about Warren Beattie after previously swearing she would never say.
But now apparently has 'let slip' the song is about 3 men and not just 1.
I think she is making up the 3 men now to cause more 'mystery'.
Does anyone care who the song is about?

Well. There's a cross post.

Sorry you are having a hard time OP. Mumsnet has got very aggressive lately

OP

The song is about Warren Beatty.

I'm sorry you are having a bad time Fantasy [flower]

but with the best will in the world people on an internet forum are not responsible for your mental health and if you find negative comments triggering maybe try not to be so aggressive?

It's quiet shitty to post things designed to make other people feel shitty for things they have said online while you have been arguing quiet forcefully with them x

Fantasyland If you have the issues that you mention, then the last thing you should be doing is posting on AIBU.

Surely you will have noticed that responses can be quite 'robust' at times.

You cannot expect other posters to mind-read you. I do not feel you have received any particularly offensive comments

I'm arguing with posters as I didn't see the need for them to tell me my thread was pointless.
Surely im able to respond to peoples comments?
Aren't they aggressive for saying something like that in the first place?
Why are they able to say something I feel is quite nasty and im not able to respond and im the aggressor?

Partial no I don't expect other people to mind read and you may not find the comments offensive but I do

@ Fantasy

Maybe you should try some of the other boards in MN, such as 'chat'. People are less aggressive in there.

Op sorry you've had a rough time but you started a fairly light thread, people disagreed with you. No one was rude, aggressive or nasty. We aren't mind readers, we can't assume that everyone has some history that means they could get upset by fairly tame posts. Sorry if upset you though.

So Warren Beatty thinks the whole song is about him? He would

Tbh there are a lot of young men who could have had that song written about them. My brother was one of them. It's a great song, I've always liked songs with a bit of a story/mystery to them.

Actually, talking of mysteries, who killed Mary, and was Richard Marx ever going to write Hazard part 2?

Oh cripes, is this in AIBU?

I can't believe I've been called aggressive for challenging people who said I shouldn't have posted.

So it's ok to make a negative comment on a thread but not ok to challenge someone for it.

That makes me aggressive for responding.

I don't think that poster meant it in a nasty way. Reread her comment, she was trying to help and explain to you how your comments were provoking the reaction you didn't like.

Which poster Paul as there was a few?

I am sure the aibu lesson is learned.

There was not a few, only one person called you aggressive, ghosty. They did so with the best of intentions.

Newlife I didn't realise you were in charge of what is worthy of a thread. In future I will run all future threads by you first.

Comments like that come across as aggressive/unnecessary. You might not realise it when you type it but it does. People will respond negatively.


The song is about me. I do think this, there's no need to bet.

ScrambledSmegs: indeed, who killed Mary in Hazard, but also, what did they throw off the Tallahatchie Bridge in Ode to Billie Jo?

No you aren't aggressive for responding I didn't say that - I said some of your response where aggressive and argumentative - which is not a huge deal unless you then accuse people of doing the same

anyway I will leave you to it - I hope you things get better for you x

Sorry ghosty I wasn't meaning you were aggressive, just trying to highlight what you had meant to the op.

I care. I also get the "apricot" angst.

Great song, great songwriter. (shows age).

Arghh! I wasn't meaning you were saying the op was aggressive. Missed out words in my other post.

Paul but that was in response to an unnecessary comment.

I would be horrified if I upset someone but it seems people go out of their way to upset people.
Yes I was stupid to fall for the baiting but I think people should be challenged on how they make people feel.

I'm going to leave the thread now as it doesn't matter what I say it will be pulled apart .

pointless post to say I love this song! Mick Jagger's voice is so distinctive you can't miss it on the backing vocals.

If you post a thread you are inviting comments, be they positive or negative. You are looking for opinions. It looks aggressive when you decide to respond to those going against your opinion, in quite a confrontational manner.

Anyway, I hope you haven't been put off for life OP.

Additionally, it's not your place to challenge people on how they make people feel. No one was nasty. Your personal issues mean you don't take negative comments well. No one knew that and no one should have to forever change the way they post, just in case it might upset someone. The site would be non-existent in that case.

I thought it was about Paul McCartney

Fight amongst yourselves ladies

Wise move op, they are already picking bones.