Me and exh separated over 2 years ago but due to financial reasons stayed living together for another 5 months, all very civilized thankfully. I eventually moved into my own flat but we stayed in regular contact went for coffee etc. After about 2 months i met a new man totally out of the blue. I wasn't looking for anyone and was actually enjoying the thought of being single for a few years. I told exh immediately, he freaked out and made several tearful attempts to win me back but I gently told him no each time.
After that he became cold and all communication stopped between us until 6 months later I received an email from him saying he had a problem with his visa (he is from non-EU country) and could I come to help. I said of course, explained everything to new partner who was really cool about it. I got on a train (9 hour journey) and stayed 10 days in his town until visa was sorted. He reimbursed me for train ticket and hotel while I was there. 1 month later he called and asked if I could come back again for 1 small detail with his paperwork, but I said no as I had just found out I was pregnant. Since then we have had occasional contact but all very friendly and nice.
Anyway, dd is 1 year old now and a few days ago I had a huge financial problem. I'm a freelance writer and a customer didn't buy leaving us without any money at all for two s until next payment was expected. We literally had no food, pampers, gas for heating, nothing. We also don't live in UK so no food banks or anything of the sort here. I emailed exh asking if he could lend me 200 euros to pass the 2 weeks (I'm supporting me, Dp, dd and MIL with just my salary). He wrote back that he was on holiday and was sorry about my situation but couldn't do anything.
First of all, being on holiday does not stop him lending me the money, he could transfer it or send through western union. He also has plenty of money so that wasn't the problem.
Aibu to be so mad at him? I understand that he still holds a grudge against me for new relationship but he conveniently put that to one side when he needed my. Financial situation has resolved itself now thank god, but I'm still seething with exh. Am I being U?