To think 9pm is too late to deliver parcels

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Just after I had ds in bed the door bell went. Several times, then the door was hammered. I was scared of answering it tbh. Fucking Amazon delivery. It's really not on is it? The guy was rude and snapped when I spelt out my name. ( it's a difficult one, and he ended up spelling it wrong anyway) I told him it was late, he said it had to be delivered today, I told him he should have done so earlier.

To make it worse, it's not even my parcel, it's addressed to SiL

Agree 9pm is annoying if you have young DC but I'd rather that than parcels thrown over a 6ft wall into the back garden, either smashing on the ground or lying undiscovered in the flowerbed for days in the pissing rain which we get all the time .......!

If we've had parcels left in the garden we've had a delivery note through the door giving me a clue where they've left it. Otherwise I'd never know!

Duck90 I accept she might get woken up in the day but when I have got her down for her night sleep and that is the only time I get to myself to eat etc it would really upset me if she was woken and I then had to spend another hour or so getting her down again.

I'm often in bed by 9:30 these days!

I can see how 9pm is convenient for some and not others as is daytime so maybe you should be able to choose day or evening delivery.

My friend had her Amazon parcel delivered at 22:30 the other night. I really would have been asleep then.

9 pm would be fine for me. We are often just pottering about after dinner (or still eating).

Maybe it's just our children, but they have never really been in bed before 9pm. As babies much later 11/12pm.

I send all my parcels to my nans as she is always there and they are usually delivered in the morning. She had one last week delivered at 10pm, I felt like the worst grandchild in the world when she text me to tell me!!

1. Where do you live that you're scared to answer your door?
2. The poor sod of a delivery driver probably would have got his wages cut if he didn't deliver all the parcels he was supposed to deliver that day.

YABU.

huffle Last week I ordered two items from Amazon in the same order for next day delivery. One was despatched that evening and arrived at about lunch time on the delivery day. The other wasn't despatched until about 4pm and arrived after 8pm. Both delivered by Amazon Logistics, the later item was a recently released book (Simply Nigella, not obscure, shown as in stock). No idea why they didn't send both at the same time and save themselves the extra delivery journey to my house!

Gutterflower - I'm impressed with your gran being able to text. I'm still trying to teach my dm. She seems to think phoning six times a day is acceptable.

DoctorTwo I deal with a lot of couriers as part of my job and what you describe is exactly what they tell me their job is like. It's tough going, especially from now leading up to Christmas. I couldn't do it.

9pm fine for me. Not many adults are in bed at 9pm.

I'm not surprised he banged on the door. He'd rung the bell, as you said, a few times and you ignored it. He didn't know the parcel was for your sister in law. Why on earth did you not answer the door? Do you live in downtown Beirut? You're out of order here but then you possibly put someone else's living at stake by complaining. That's shitty behaviour.

I wouldn't answer the door after 9pm. Nobody I know would knock on after that.

I had a courier hammer on the door at 11pm last week. Also bastard amazon courier. Ignored it as I was in bed! He came back the following morning and practically threw the parcel at me. Arsehole

"I wouldn't answer the door after 9pm. Nobody I know would knock on after that"

So presumably if anyone did, it would be some sort of emergency? So all the more reason to answer.

I honestly don't get people who won't answer the door after 9pm. How do you know its not a neighbour telling you you've left your car lights on? Or similar?!
As an extreme example, a few weeks ago I had a bit of an emergency and had to be rushed to the maternity unit, as I thought I was going into labour at 24 weeks.
I was in the house with DS asleep upstairs and had to find a neighbour to watch him while I got to the hospital.
I'm bloody glad my neighbours answered the door to me and weren't all sitting there thinking "oooh, it's after 9pm, nobody I know would call round at this hour."

A neighbour would call out my name & I would recognise their voice.

Unfortunatly I've had bad experience of a stranger banging on my door in a drunken state trying to get me to let them in. I've also been mugged on my doorstep.

Don't you have a chain on your door?

No. We did in the old house(victorian terrace) but not in our new house (new build)

I've been told they are very difficult to fit on our type of upvc door & arnt strong enough to withstand any kind of force anyway.

Surely in your own home it's entirely up to you if you choose not to open the door after a certain time??

I have these on my pvc doors.

Forgive the marks where the old chain was! One of the jobs still to do

Surely in your own home it's entirely up to you if you choose not to open the door after a certain time??

Yes it is but equally you can't complain about people, couriers or other, who choose to knock after 9pm.

I don't get this obsession about the dark either. You can't do this in the dark, you can't do that, it's dangerous etc. I bring my dc not to be scared of the dark otherwise you wouldn't do anything or go out after 4pm in the winter!

Oh agreed, if you choose not to open the door then it's down to you of you miss a parcel or something but 11 is ridiculous.

Fwiw I haven't locked my back door in over 5 years and its pitch black fields all around me for miles!

He shouldn't have been rude, but I don't think delivery companies/drivers can win really; people complain if they come during the day when they're out at work, and if they come in the evenings when they're in but don't want to answer the door...