To never allow another sleep over

[OnTheEdgeToday]

I dont do sleepovers, but he had begged to sleep at his friends house and so i let his friend sleep lastnight.
I woke up at 8am from someone going up and down the stairs. I get up and my son was not letting his friend in his room.
They had been practicing wrestling moves on each other and my son got hurt and so took to his bedroom in a huff.
He had put his bed infront of his door and was refusing to give his friends clothes.
I eventually got his friends clothes but my son was still refusing to come out. I set friend up with the tv downstairs and offered breakfast and stuff.

Now my son has fallen asleep and friend is playing on my computer.
He did call his mum, but has decided to stay for a bit in the hope my son is in a better mood when he wakes up.
I knew a sleepover was a bad idea.
Friend said they didnt sleep at all lastnight, so that is probably why my son is so moody this morning

As i said ...a rant. It may be pointless to you, but it wasnt for me. You didnt need to read. I appreciate all of the comments, no matter how harsh some may have been.

That, dear, is what diaries are for, not MN threads!

I don't think anyone here has said their children are angels. Just that they feel that the behaviour explained was rude.

OP and vgiraffe:

AIBU is like being caught in a glaring interrogation light by a gang waving pitchforks.. It is not a board on which people feel the need to be reasonable, or measured, or moderate in their response.

People will have responded to what was described as pretty bad behaviour by the OP's DS.

If you need to vent, say so in the first line of the post, and put it in chat, or parenting.

Shows how much i know. I didnt even realise i had posted in aibu. I was reading threads and created my own.
Oh well, nevermind.

It still doesnt really matter where a post is created, really. People should be kind to one another, regardless of the circumstances or issues surrounding them.

That old saying that people seem to have forgotten "if you have nothing nice to say then dont say anything at all"
I am entitled to choose where i post something, i didnt want to write it in a diary. I wanted to feel like i was talking to another adult, as all of my time (like many of you, i bet) is spent around my children. It didnt work out like that, though...

Don't lose anymore of your all too precious sleep about it, OnTheEdge.

Now people understand , lots have been sympathetic over cahms wait etc, and I am sure you will get help and advice over what may be going on with him if you post on SEN. have you found that board? It doesn't appear in Active Convos -look in the Talk topic list.

Good luck.

Yeah, possible adhd or not you shouldn't have let your son sleep and do that to his friend. I don't really see how it makes a difference to the way you handled it.
But can people please fuck off with the "is he an only child" comments. FFS.

AIBU is not normal Mumsnet. It's a bit of a bear pit - it was originally started as a way for people who wanted to "be direct" online to have a fora where that was more acceptable. Support and/or venting needs to be sought elsewhere, with rare exceptions.

Sorry it's been a tough night. We all have them at times.

Sorry some people have been very nasty to you op. Hope you get help for your son and that he has many successful sleepovers in the future.

I loathe sleepovers. For some reason it just seems to bring out the worst in everybody. Hope everyone is calmer now and there's no hard feelings. Fresh new week tomorrow.

Thank you all :)
Sorry for not taking more notice as to where i posted, for dripfeeding and for not saying it was for a rant more than advice in the first line of my original post. I now know for future posts, so thank you for that too :)

You really, really are not the one who owes anyone apologies on here, OP.

Have just RTFT. I'm sorry you had a shit night. Hopefully your DS will have an early night tonight and so can you. and

OnTheEdgeToday, I think some people have been quite mean to you. You did what you thought was best in a difficult situation and then came on here for advice. When I read your post I did wonder if special needs were an issue. My DS has dyspraxia and Asperger's and I can imagine him behaving the way your DS did at his age. If it's his first sleepover, he may well genuinely not know what's appropriate - and if he is quite territorial about his bedroom, shutting his friend out after a fight might have felt like a sensible thing to do.

Obviously the behaviour is not acceptable, but I think a rational chat about expectations is called for here, rather than punishment. Hope all goes well.

Please take your sons to the Dr if you think he has ADHD or something. The Dr is only one who can you refer to peadatrion who could diagnosis him. The school can't do this .

Thank you sleeponeday, bathshebadarkstone and cinnamontoast. :)

I have put punishments in place, and i had a firm chat with him. Yes, people were taking things out on me, in quite an unfriendly way. All the while commenting on a 'childs' bad behaviour

Hi summerrainbow. The school have done this. I am receiving a phone call tomorrow with a date and time for an appointment with camhs, from camhs.
They called on friday, but the date and time was unsuitable.