rip... Is that it?

[CainInThePunting]

This pisses me off every fucking time I see it.

If you are genuinely short of characters couldn't you at least use capitals?
Otherwise there is no excuse for 'rip'.
It's lazy, callous and insensitive.
'rip' what the fuck does it mean? All it says to me is I can't be arsed to think of anything appropriate so this will do and I can't actually be arsed enough to use capitals.
If you want to say 'rest in peace' just bloody type it in full!
Or better still, think of what you actually feel and want to say rather than some shitty, meaningless pacifier.

Can you tell I fucking hate 'rip'?

And breathe...

Yes. I could be slightly less upset, too. I could use the correct forms.

multivac you're nasty and unnecessary. Calm down the aggression. It's unwarranted and wrong.

It's a shame it's turned nasty. I very rarely post but I when I saw the post title I felt like this is something I'm qualified to comment on. I really do think some people do need educating on what to say to the bereaved. Everybody dies and most people will suffer a horrific bereavement in their lifetime. In my case those that sent a card or e-mail I can still appreciate and remember their words and actually those are the people still very much in my life. Facebook messages and texts were all pretty much the same, lots of "big hugs, let me know if you need anything"... I got no more than 20 cards but well over 1000 texts and Facebook messages. i didn't even know we knew that many people. On one hand it's nice that they bothered to send a message at all but at the time it felt like they were getting it over and done with, sending an instant message and job done.

Jesus Christ why is CainInThePunting getting such a roasting and being called a wind up merchant? FFS a bit of compassion costs nothing.

I think people are on auto pilot on social media. Posting rip with as much feeling as asking what's the weather like today? No excuse though.

rip.....multivac

RIP is meaningless to me.

I agree, it's lazy and comes across as uncaring.

Incidentally, it's not an odd thing for a religious person to say. It is part of the Catholic requiem mass / also used in CofE services.

Atheists also use the word God! as an ejaculation. It's just a turn of phrase, doesn't mean the atheist in question has suddenly realised the error of their ways.

RIP is just what people say. That said it does feel a bit silly saying it sometimes. I think GBNF - gone but not forgotten could be a suitable substitute.

Lots of people are clueless when it comes to bereavement and don't actually know what to say.

Absolutely agree OP. There is something incredibly nauseating about the "rip" mass public mourning brigade. The news will be wall to wall grief porn for the next few weeks now and no doubt these recreational grievers will be out in force.

FYI actually doing something for someone bereaved. I.e visiting them or taking a meal round isba lot more useful that platitudes "let me know if you need anything ".

If you are going to say something or make a gesture than make it meaningful and heartfelt.... not a careless 3 letters.

YANBU at all. Posting nothing but 'rip' on a thread or an FB status is utterly insincere. You're better off saying nothing at all.

What about when people say 'Sorry for your loss'. That annoys me. No one is lost, they have died. I always think 'I am sorry to hear about your ...' is a lot more personal and sincere. Obviously everyone is entitled to say whatever they like!

I agree, Happy and Cain. RIP (or worse, rip) means nothing to me. At best it's something you would say to the deceased.

There is Very little people can do right to be honest as its such an unrelenting awful experience

But a message with some thought goes a very long way.

Death and Facebook don't mix

And it always amazes me the things we ant find to have a ruck about on aibu !

If you have 200 fb friends how much can you expect the 190 less close ones to write? Most people aren't very eloquent generally. People never know what to say. They want to acknowledge your loss, to register that they are sorry you are going through an awful thing, but an awful thing that happens every day to someone, that is a normal part of life. It's understandable that they don't want to say nothing as if they haven't seen your news. They can't know if you are someone who will appreciate the sentiment or not. It's done with good will. Nothing they can say will actually make it better.

I tend to agree multivac

If they want to acknowledge your loss and register their sympathy, they could take the time to use caps lock and punctuation. R.I.P. means rest in peace, rip means nothing at all. Its not an acknowledgement if anything other than you being too lazy to spend an extra 3 seconds on your "heartfelt message".

It takes nothing to write - I am so sorry to hear your news, if there is anything we can do...' I imagine that is a lot more comforting than RIP and also allows the bereaved to follow the message up if they want to.

I read a journalists piece a few years ago who wrote very movingly about how many texts she received after the loss of her Mother. The senders considered a text the only necessary form of communication necessary. No sympathy cards sharing a memory, no visit for a chat over sweet tea, just a one line text and the job was done. Was a very sad article.

It comes from 'requiescat in pace'

It's definitely a Christian thing - origins firmly in church Latin, and usage is Christian burial traditions.

When people say they Christianity is embedded in British culture, this is the kind of thing they mean. A religious practice that is so deeply assimilated that people become unaware they are following it.

And it's not really secular now, because of continuing church usage. Plus of course the general idea that only the sentient can distinguish between toil and rest, so it's only relevant if either you or the deceased expect an afterlife.

(And as it is a sentence, it should - arguably - be Rip. Or like a headline, all capitalised as RIP).

Requiescat In Pace or Rest In Peace.

Why do you need God to have Peace?