rip... Is that it?

[CainInThePunting]

This pisses me off every fucking time I see it.

If you are genuinely short of characters couldn't you at least use capitals?
Otherwise there is no excuse for 'rip'.
It's lazy, callous and insensitive.
'rip' what the fuck does it mean? All it says to me is I can't be arsed to think of anything appropriate so this will do and I can't actually be arsed enough to use capitals.
If you want to say 'rest in peace' just bloody type it in full!
Or better still, think of what you actually feel and want to say rather than some shitty, meaningless pacifier.

Can you tell I fucking hate 'rip'?

And breathe...

Grow up, OP. Seriously.

Sorry for your loss op. People just don't know what to say I'm those situations. What can you say? It's all the usual isn't it.

I don't think that is an adult response on this thread Multivac. You either think it's ok to use 'rip' or you don't. But 'grow up'?
What?

"Grow up". It's an idiomatic expression that means 'stop acting immaturely'. HTH.

There is no RIP-ing if you're an atheist. Do you think people know that?

Not sure I agree with that. If you believe bag once you're dead you're dead, and nothing happens to your soul or anything, then to me the 'nothingness' is the very definition of resting in peace.

You are kind Hampsterdam but my OP wasn't just about my loss.
It's about the things I see on social media, one person will post about a loss and there will always be one who posts 'rip' and it gives me the rage.
Is that all you can find in yourself to say? Are we so callous to others' feelings?
I hate it.

I agree op. If you feel strongly enough to comment on the passing of an individual, or a group of people, then you can eek out a few more characters and perhaps put in capitals where they are appropriate.

Fine Multivac, I think that's the total of your contribution so thank you for that.

This TED talk gives a little perspective on a recent topic. We don't ask the questions we should, we shy away from saying anything that might upset but maybe we should just say it because it's the right thing to say.
For clarity, Multivac will be the one asking 'did you shoot anyone?'.

www.ted.com/talks/wes_moore_how_to_talk_to_veterans_about_the_war

For clarity, OP, you know fuck all about me. Again, HTH.

True, just what you have posted on this thread. It says a lot.

How, precisely, do you think we should articulate our compassion and empathy regarding what is happening in Paris, right now, OP? What are the rules? How will you know - because that, of course, is what matters, who is properly sincere and who is just mouthing platitudes?

Nod in your name?

If you are a believer you go to heaven
And do heavenly things - with all your dead possee
Which I will obvs do as a committed Christian - yay can't wait

So nice but not sounding very restful really ???

My DH recently suddenly died and I had to announce it on Facebook as we're both well known in our town and although I really didn't want to do it I had to before the rumour mill started and i was receiving messages asking if it was true.
Anyway... I got about 400 comments on the status and every time somebody did a RIP I thought "fuck off". My whole life had just been torn apart and the RIP-ing just seemed so insincere. That is the only contact I've had from most people too! Bastards!

Oh I am so sorry for your loss flappy
It's not just the bereavement is it ? It's all that shit you have afterwards

Wishing you strength X

A heartfelt comment Multivac, something that means something to to you and those affected.

Not 'rip' because it means nothing. It's lip service and you might as well not bother. You might feel better for adding that token but that's it. You feel better for it. Well, good for you. Give yourself a clap on the back for posting 'rip'.

I'm impressed at your supernatural powers, OP. It's amazing how you know what is in everyone's hearts and minds as they type, or write, or speak in response to someone else's grief.

If you think that pressing 'caps lock' makes you connect, care, feel or love more... well, I think that says more than anything I have posted. Anywhere. About anything.

HappyMcFlappy I'm sorry you had to do that and deal with your own loss. It must have been very difficult. I feel for you.

Bloody hell multivac, you're bloody determined you're not going to get it aren't you? You are one determined little fucker I'll give you that.

Good night

(and again, you have no fucking idea of the words I've groped to find this year, for people I love, who are living without people they love. And need. And do you know what - if I had posted 'rip' [sic]... they would have known exactly what I meant.)

You have completely ignored HappyMcFlappys post above, it's not all about you ffs.

I didn't ignore it. I didn't respond to it; you did. But guess what... it's not all about you, either.

Thank you Cain and Shouting.
I do think in this day and age with social media death just seems a bit trivialized. I agree that people really don't know what to say. I'm more understanding of it now that it's been 4 months since he died but in those first few days and weeks I was gobsmacked at people's crassness!

I spent today with my friend who buried her husband this summer, and our ten-year-olds.

I wish you'd been there, OP, to tell me how to phrase my sympathy.

I assume "it must have been terrible; I feel for you" wins?