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Original poster

to think this is the worst invite ever?

86 replies

wecanbuthope · 07/11/2015 14:58

To come over and watch a wedding video.

Yes I was there on the day and it was lovely.

Yes the millions of photos I saw after were lovely.

However I really really do not need to relive your wedding day a good 6 months after it happend.

Aibu?

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lavenderhoney · 07/11/2015 18:39

If you know loads of people at it, and I dont know there was fight or something?

I was at a dinner party once when the hosts had a screaming row in the kitchen then came out all fixed smiles as I we hadn't heard. And then stuck a film in the DVD player. It was so boring. I drank lots of wine. And said I had to nip home to check the cat and I'm afraid I didn't go back.

I met them a few years later, arguing in a supermarket with a toddler in a buggy. They invited me over to see the birth video. I declined gracefully, my cat wasn't feeling very well and needed 24/7 care and attention:)

And once I was invited to a drinks party which was actually a guise to play pictionary. I left, citing a headache.

HelenaJustina · 07/11/2015 18:50

It depends, if the food was going to be good and there would be lots and lots of wine then I think I would go... Clearly I don't have much of a social life and a night out is a thing to be relished! It would also provide lots of pisstaking opportunities/bitching in the car on the way home, I would be 3 parts drunk and DH would be wearily agreeing with me...

DickDewy · 07/11/2015 19:03

Some people are so self indulgent!

I can't even sit through my own wedding video without getting bored.

We met up with another family on a holiday a couple of years ago (we were in same area of the U.S. so arranged to meet up).

When we got back, the invited us over to watch their holiday video. It was at least 2 hours long, set to rock music and they had added completely unfunny captions!

quietbatperson · 07/11/2015 19:15

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DadDadDad · 07/11/2015 19:25

Ha! Because of the line breaks on my phone, my eyes took in "honeymoon video including... 8 fucking" and my mind briefly boggled at the intimate detail you were being shown. ShockBlush

Mintyy · 07/11/2015 19:33

It's funny because Facebook is like being invited around to watch other people's wedding videos or holiday snaps (or children being cute) but I guess it's in a drip-drip kind of way on there Grin.

Lweji · 07/11/2015 19:35

Unless you hide their updates. Grin

Mintyy · 07/11/2015 19:37
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Caprinihahahaha · 07/11/2015 19:38

I found out that at the last family get together my mother made all my brothers, sisters, their partners and children, watch the school play where my DD was the lead.

It was 3 hours long.

Sansoora · 07/11/2015 19:43

I love looking at my children's wedding DVD's. As the mother of the bride or groom it was frantic on the day and the recordings help me to fill in the gaps.

DeepBlueLake · 07/11/2015 20:27

YANBU, we got had to watch DH cousin's wedding video just a few months after the wedding. I was bored shitless after the first 5 minuets, we made our excuses after an hour, god knows how long it went on after that.

That said, we recently watched a close friend's wedding video 10 years on after the wedding and it was really lovely and interesting to watch as it's nice to know who's changed, who's still together with who etc.

We got the ceremony home videoed and some parts of the reception went on video as well, I think I've watched it once when I was on mat leave with DS1.

Original poster
wecanbuthope · 07/11/2015 20:41

Just to say I'm not bagging on wedding videos at all.

I just think its pretty self indulgent to expect people who were just guests (or not even there!) to be that interested, especially only a few months after.

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Bavmorda · 07/11/2015 20:52

I think some people who throw themselves wholeheartedly into planning their wedding over a year or so go into a sort of mourning once it's over - this is perhaps a way of dragging it out further and delaying the inevitable!

I once visited an acquaintance and was subjected to her 6th birthday party video (she was 30 at the time). She sat next to the TV and in every shot in which she appeared the pointed saying "There I am! /That's me!/Look it's me again!"

Rachel0Greep · 07/11/2015 20:56

When one of my work colleagues got her wedding video, she brought it into work, booked a meeting room over lunchtime, and invited everyone on our team to come and watch it during their lunch break.

Omg Grin. I'm laughing and cringing for her at the same time.

Only1scoop · 07/11/2015 20:58

I'd decline

'ConfusedLord Save us....I thought that show was over'

Im0gen · 07/11/2015 20:58

I was once invited to view the wedding video when I hadn't even been invited to the wedding . Unlike everyone else in my group of friends .

This is when I was young and still very polite too stupid so I accepted what was I thinking

Only1scoop · 07/11/2015 21:01

Remember my brothers wedding video from the early 80's

Starts with wobbly names across the screen and two rings on satin cushions....

Then 'going to the chapel' starts the audio extravaganza to accompany the treat to watch.

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wecanbuthope · 07/11/2015 21:05

I think some people who throw themselves wholeheartedly into planning their wedding over a year or so go into a sort of mourning once it's over - this is perhaps a way of dragging it out further and delaying the inevitable!

I think this is what happened here for sure.

It was probably close to 2 years of planning, I asked her if she'd watch some tv program and she replied that they never have time for tv now as they make wedding lists every single night (crazy times).

A few in our friendship circle have just got engaged too so I guess the focus is shifting more towards them now too.

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reni2 · 07/11/2015 21:29

There is only one thing to do, OP, you will have to get married or, if you already are, have a baby in retaliation. Then watch your wedding or birth video with the friend in question.

flustercuck · 07/11/2015 21:34

My wedding DVD is 10 mins long ... We watch it usually once a year on the anniversary with the kids. It wouldn't be that bad but the editing bloke put Shania Twain music over the top of it. Turned it into a real video nasty.

CakeNinja · 07/11/2015 21:38

Aghhhh, I'm bloody with you and decide you are wholeheartedly NBU.
Some friends of ours invites us and 2 other couple round for dinner a few months after their wedding.
After we'd eaten, they ambushed us with their DVD Shock
Their thinking behind this was that as they hadn't deemed any of the 6 of us worth forking out for on the wedding breakfast, we had missed "the best bits, the hilarious speeches" so we could all catch up there.
That's 2 hours of my life I'm never getting back. Us 6 rejects shared a cab back home and were all massively Confused about the entire thing!
Ffs the good thing to come from an evening invite is that you dodge the dull speeches and microwaved food - but we endured it anyway!

scarlets · 07/11/2015 22:34

I have never been ambushed with slides or DVDs but I do have a friend who, when asked how her work Christmas party/cousin's wedding/granny's birthday went, stands alongside me, whips out her smartphone and swipes through dozens of photos of random (to me) people celebrating. A simple "it was great" would suffice. I don't need visual evidence. Last week I made the mistake of asking about the holiday villa she used over the summer - I had to look at 20 pics of the pool alone, then we started on the interior ....

UntilTheCowsComeHome · 07/11/2015 22:53

We had a really good laugh watching my best friend's wedding video.

Much wine was consumed and we giggled all night at the little snippets of her elderly aunties discussing the soft furnishings of the hotel.

"Ooh Mary, I do like this chair" and others are quoted often. Grin

AnnPerkins · 07/11/2015 23:54

Sorry, I posted then went to watch fireworks.

The neighbours turned out to be professional knotweed killers. DH or I asked what they did for a living. Cue verrrry detailed explanation culminating in the slide show.

The evening had started with such promise too. Proper gin martinis and everything.

Irosstaketheerachel · 08/11/2015 00:59

My ex-husband went to Syria for his sister's wedding (I couldn't attend due to work commitments).

He came back brandishing the wedding DVD which I dutifully watched. Just to set the scene, it was a Kurdish wedding where no alcohol is served. Three hours of footage of miserable people sitting round drinking coffee. Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse he announced the DVD was the first in a series of three.

Fuck that, I thought. I broke the DVD player. Seriously.