To be getting myself in a right old (admittedly almost enjoyable) tizzy over this date?

[SolidGoldBrass]

So I have a date - well, a shag-date lined up for Sunday afternoon.
I absolutely do not know what to do with myself this week. I am horrendously out of practice (haven't had sex with anyone else for several years) and panicking that he will be disappointed with my obsolete skills and aging body (he is a lot younger than me).

I do know that if it doesn't work out, he is a genuinely nice bloke and we will be able to laugh it off and have a cup of tea and not worry but still...

Sometimes you don't need romance, you just need sex!

An afternoon in bed with someone you fancy? Why on earth would that be depressing? Bloody good fun I think.

Have a good time SGB!

What's depressing about a fun afternoon of sex with a willing young man? Unromantic, sure, that's par for the course here ;)

SGB is old enough and sensible enough to know what she would enjoy doing. And I doubt that Nice Young Man is under any illusions for the long-term, at the moment, given that they already know each other.

If they have fun, then they have fun. If not, she's already said that they're both mature enough to laugh it off over a cup of tea and still remain friends.

Actually it is, sort of, 'romantic' in an unconventional way, because this whole thing has been on slow-burn for months and months.

(Though that's also what makes it a little scary - so much anticipation, how can it not be a bit of a damp squib in the end...)

But as already said, if it doesn't work out I can't see it spoiling the existing friendship. And it's better to have a go and see what happens than run away just in case it all goes wrong...

Well, you've only got one 'pearl-clutcher' on this thread, SGB.

Don't worry about over-thinking it .... easier said than done, though

I hope all the planning and hype haven't over-egged the pudding.

I prefer a bit of spontaneity myself.

ah brilliant OP! have a great time and it'll all come back to you, you won't have to think about it....
(I am jealous!)

Yeh, tell him the first lesson is not to over think it. That way, it cuts you some slack if he is overwhelmed! But no reason why he should be.

I like a combination of the suggestion of a practice run and anyfucker's comment about spontaneity - go round to his house now, shag him, and then say, ok, sunday can go ahead, you've got through to the second round.

AF: Know what you mean. I have always been keen on spontaneity in the past ie go to a club or party, cop off and DTD pretty much immediately and then decide what to do next - but that kind of stopped being an option after having DS. Not entirely, obviously, as there were times when I had an 'overnight pass' eg DS' dad looking after him and stopping over at the house so could go back to someone else's place if the opportunity arose (and there were always the swingers' clubs) but I sort of got out of the habit, and there are only so many nights when DS dad available to look after DS anyway, and what with being perimenopausal and stuff I'd started thinking well, that part of my life is all over really... and then all this started up.

Whatevs. It's been lots of fun so far, even if it does all fizzle out within the next few days.

Ahhh, have a good ride

Red has a good idea...

yeh, re the fizzling out, as my friend always says {laughing, wryly laughing} "I met this ma.... no forget that"

Enjoy. Stay off the farty foods until Sunday :)

Enjoy yourself.... sex with a new man is fantastic.I will be working with 3 men half my age,lovely as they are im jealous :)

Good for you! Pre-DH, I had a very lovely friend with benefits and we would frequently tear each others clothes off for a day bit of fun - normally followed by limping away!

Do something for you - doesn't matter if he'd notice it. Be it a bit of jewellery you love or a lipstick you feel like a vamp in or even just a good hour pampering yourself - you can use that as a crutch if you feel nervous

Ooh good luck!

It's just occurred to me that I would probably be really awkward in a situation like this...without the spontaneity I mean.

I can imagine myself perched on the edge of the couch/bed and saying something awkward like, "OK, so how is this going to work then"? or "So what time do we start?"

Oh god, I sound like Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory, if you'll excuse the pun!

Worra I would be the same! If it's not spontaneous I tend to be really awkward, even with DH. Planned sex makes me awkward!

Get your best undies on SGB and enjoy every second!

yy to planning!
it can be nice, but I went on a day time date with a man, in my runners and jeans, I thought he'd kind of 'friend zoned' me, but then he told me the night before in a text that he was hoping to kiss me..... I felt this gear change in my belly. He did, and I was glad he did! but it made it weird when I met him. If he hadn't sent that text I would have kissed him hello on both cheeks. I went a bit robot for the first five minutes.

lol at "what time do we start?" yes! the awkwardness would make me a bit sheldon too!

I wonder if SGB has thought about typing up a 'Fuck buddy agreement'

I bet she's dusting off her whips and gimp mask about now.

snort at NoArmani. Yeah, got some of the toys out of the box and checked them over last night while DS was away.

I'm so vanilla

You do realise, SGB, that you're going to have to turn up at the London meet-up next Saturday and tell us all about it?!

I did this before I met DP. I had sex sober for the first time in my life, and it was in broad daylight.

I enjoyed it a couple of times! ultimately though it didn't make me feel great about myself.

I feel like nobody has said be safe. condoms, let someone know where you are and check in etc.

have fun!

Sadly I can't make the meet up as am working that weekend. (Though any of you who want to come and say hi after lunch are welcome to drop by my stall...)

ExWife - fair point about safety, but he is someone I know and we have a lot of mutual friends so I feel pretty sure that he doesn't want to make a party hat out of my skin...

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