To sometimes feel like a brusque tweedy old lady on MN

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I'm not that old, but some of the views on here really astound me. No one touch my child (on a thread I started); Christmas is just for me and my little unit, no relatives allowed; how dare an elderly person park in a P&T space; etc etc etc

AIBU to sometimes think the world is slowly going mad?

I am Margaret Rutherford.

I just clicked on a thread about a dh buying unsolicited clothes for a poster. Boy, three posts in he was a controlling abusive arse only buying his wife clothes because of his "issues" and because he wanted a fight.

No. He text her and asked her if she liked the dress and she said no. He bought it for her anyway then sulked when she said she didn't like it.

Which he has done before. It was not just a kind gesture gone wrong.

Bad example really.

Loving this thread! Another Tweedy here. Perhaps it can become a proper long-running thread, TweedyNet, perhaps?

Bad example really.

I many cases the things mentioned on this thread are not "the common view" on MN.

There are threads where the OP mentions something in their lives (e.g. the alone for Christmas) ad the majority of the thread agrees with the tweedy poster than it's not on.

There are threads where the OP says something that the tweedy poster does not like, and the majority of the thread disagrees.

Or, much much more of the time, there are threads where there are many opinions, both agreeing and disagreeing with the OP.

In most cases there is no such thing as "the MN opinion".

It's great to feel brusque and tweedy, but don't imagine that you are feeling tweedy towards an imaginary majority

yes, brusque and tweedy is rl. Nowt wrong with that

'Today a tweedy older lady made 2 workmen give up their seats next to her on the station platform to my 4, 8 and 10 year olds (to their credit the workmen immediately agreed the kids should be sitting as platforms are dangerous places...)

IMO Proper Tweedy (older) Ladies like children and look out for them, and don't expect them to stand up in public transport situations to show respect to their (healthy, non elderly) elders'

Well my tweedie self would say an 8 year old and ten year old are more than capable of standing on a station platform! Does that make me an improper tweedie?

And I wouldn't make men or workmen give up their seats for them.

Treaclesoda- exactly that.

I think the " peace and love " message was because some posts are clearly about other specific identifiable threads , which would make this a TAAT, which isn't allowed .

Whereas most of the discussion was about MN and Modern Life and Young People Today , which is fine . As someone said up thread, if men were talking like this, it would be a sociological discussion.

Ah. Oddly enough I had not actually seen the OP's other thread when I first opened this one. So my own "don't breathe near my baby" comment was entirely off the cuff and not based on any specific thread. Just everything I've seen here over the last few years.

I do wonder if people who post outraged threads about trivial things are maybe just bored and posting about something that in reality they are only mildly irritated about? Otherwise they must be permanently enraged by small annoyances.

My tweed is at the cleaners so I improvised, hope I can still be included

I can't imagine being 'fuming' about very much at all. I'm mostly a bit pissed off. The last time I fumed it was a fucking big event

Felicity you have a face that says 'I will brook no nonsense thank you'

P.S the way you manage your fussy Belgian employer in a kind but firm matter is inspiring

kind but firm 'manner'.

ginslinger (love the name BTW!) I can't be arsed to fume much either. Life's too short. I get minor irrations, I have a rant that lasts all of 30 seconds.

Agree. Sometimes the me, me, me and total lack of common sense is astounding. Oh - and the entitlement. Hoiks bosom and harrumphs. And the social media facebook arguments.... I regard Facebook/Selfies/Twitter as a home for distressed narcissists with 'inner teenager' issues. Departs to iron the creases into tweed skirt....

PS. Didnt Ben Elton write a book set in the future where it was compulsory to have a facebook account, post daily videos of your life, dress sexy and books were forbidden? It starts funny ..then gets dark, v v v dark.

Food threads always bring out my inner tweed wearer.

Thank you Dingle, you are right, Whitehaven Mansions is very much a nonsense free zone.

It's just too tiring rousette

U2HasTheEdge

I think a lot, if not most, AIBUS are posted by people who want validation rather than an answer to a genuine question. I often read OPs and my first thought is "are you serious - of course you're right if that's actually what happened." Very occasionally the OP contains a serious misjudgement that is patched up by another post containing further facts which again leads me to wonder if there's a backstory. Generally, however, the responses will affirm the OP and, because the facts are generally so one-sided, often be quite extreme.

I think the thread mentioned is an extremely good example of precisely what I describe.

Furthermore, while I grew up in the UK I left some time back for NZ. When I read discussions involving people from the UK it really does strike me how comparatively quick people are to take offence and claim victimisation, which shuts the discussion down.

Oh yes, the amount of fuming, getting the rage and being totally outraged that goes on is mind boggling.

I can't be arsed with it myself. It is usually over total trivia, and is for those with far too much time on their hands.

I have watched the Nativity play outrage with amusement. Sometimes the parents are worse than the children.

I always hope it is just hyperbole and the posters don't actually mean half of what they write.

"I live in NI and thank goodness we haven't got to the extreme unfriendliness that is described on here"

Also from/living in NI, and think we have quite a different attitude to the mainland. Much more relaxed. We talk to strangers in in shops/ at bus stops, openly coo over strangers children (and love having our own children cooed over), hand out coins to children of aquaintances (and recieve back gratefully). We'll do favours for neighbours, don't mind kids playing in the street, and if said kids are taking the piss with noise, know we can tell them to "knock it in the head" and they will stop. Same with kids messing about on buses. And know their parents would do the same/we would want them to if our own kids acted up. When we have babies, we let our extended families come visit either in hospital or when we get home. That includes dh or dp's side! Extended family will make the tea/clean up after and tell you off for getting up. We treat our parents and grandparents with respect, even if they do drive us up the wall sometimes. We don't like to see people alone at christmas, (unless they'd rather be alone). We walk our dogs off the lead (unless they're aggresive) and as long as we lift their mess, it's grand. If someone is being an eejit, we tell them. We hold doors open for others, and give up seats to elderly people and pregnant woman, and pull kids onto laps to make room for others (have done this loads of times with ds, usually coming up to christmas when buses are packed and people have lots of bags).

I'm 23, yet even I feel tweedy at some of the threads on this. Was once called a pedo for suggesting if someones toddler is being sick in a shop, and the parent is stressing out, you should offer to help.

My own mil isn't perfect, but why would I not want her to see her grandchild until he was 2 weeks old? As a pp said I was brought up with "How would you feel if..?" although in the 90's not the 70's, and have already said this more times than I could count to ds (and he's only 4/nearly 5).

Not that all NI people are lovely and friendly of course, just that I think we're generally more laid back. Sorry this turned out so long. Part of being Norn' Irish, is being loquacious!