one born could be banned... is this unreasonable

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i think it is. people can turn over is they dont like it. and i think it gives woman an insight of how things might be when they are in labour.

I don't think it should be banned, haven't seen it for years but when I did in the beginning I seem to remember it showed a good mix of experiences though.

I agree it does give an unrealistic view of how much time your midwife will spend with you in labour though.

I watched it before I had my first. I'm glad I did.

It does NOT only show the worst cases. The cases it shows are quite straightforward. My own labour and birth experience was far worse than anything I'd seen on OBEM, so it didn't prepare me, really.

I haven't watched it in years, so can't comment on current series.

I think it probably has quite good long term potential actually as although it's been on a long time already it has a fresh audience all the time as more people are pregnant/planning a family that wouldn't have watched it before they got to that stage, just as I now have all school aged children it doesn't interest me any more.

It's shouldn't be banned.

People need to make their own choices whether they reckon they can cope watching a programme like OBEM. No one is forcing them to watch it.

I don't think it has had it's day, I personally don't watch it now as youngest (and last) DC is 4, i watched it loads when i was pregnant.

There are loads of people it is still relevant for even if it's not our thing anymore.

But I agree, it isn't being banned and the mirror is a rag...

i personally like it doesnt scare me, i have had 3 so nothing scares me . but I can see how it would possible scare /upset people, particularly maybe new parents to be

but they don't have to watch it do they

personally the thing I find most offensive about it is that some of the "men" on it are such useless fucks, that, if I was a midwife I would be sacked for telling them so

i find it the female equivalent of how I might imagine a man might feel watching another bloke being repeatedly kicked in his nether regions. I sit there wincing - especially between Dc1 and dc2 - now I'm not having any more I mostly find it demeaning to watch people at their worst, scared, in pain etc. But of all the stuff that's out there, I wouldn't start with this for a ban!

They can watch the repeats though Muddle it's all the same.

How silly, I've watched it on and off over the years and watched the whole recent series whilst pregnant, it shows a range of births and I found it quite educational really, it really shows that anything can happen and not to get too set on one idea of childbirth.

WTF is a 'child expert'? I was expecting her to be consultant neonatologist or something but apparently she's a 'birth coach.' Right then.

If things could be banned because a) one person who claims to be an 'expert' doesn't like it, or b) because they might scare someone, pretty much everything would be banned.

cheesecake I agree with you, the trouble is if you rely on the NCT version of birth, I couldn't understand why I wasn't drinking champagne and celebrating after stage 3 or whatever.

I have really enjoyed OBEM over the years, I don't watch it now as I think I've seen all the versions of how to give birth possible and I don't engage with it as much as I used to. It was great though, to see all that.

Muddle in my local hospital you have one midwife assigned to you at all times (obviously they swap at shift change times). They don't leave your room at all. (I had about 6, thanks to my horribly long, non progressing labour).

The postnatal care on the ward was absolute shit though.

have never watched it and don't quite see the appeal, but each to their own really. Afaik it's supposed to be entertainment not educational, so if someone feels that it doesn't suit their levels of what should be classed as entertaining then they know where the off switch is, surely?

Anyone who needs to start a petition against a programme which they have the choice not to watch needs to get out more.

I haven't seen it for years either but when I did see it, there seemed to be a range of births. What winds me up slightly is the number of women who end up giving birth on their backs but I guess that is the reality of birth in the UK in the 21st century still.

I did find the episode that featured the shoulder dystocia in theatre really interesting. You got to see how the drills they run work, how they try one thing for a limited time then change, how much physical effort the registrar put in. That was a genuine emergency and as somebody who works in the NHS but won't ever see that (I hope!) I did find it fascinating. And obviously I cried buckets when the baby came out safe (except for her broken clavicle)

Northern I agree with you about the women giving birth lieing down on their backs, surely the hardest way to do and yet seems to be almost universal.

It wont be banned, that's reported in the Mirror of all "papers", its all just crap.

I had family appear on it at the Liverpool Womens where 2 series have been recorded, they loved the experience. I'm not put off or frightened by it and think its lovely, my experience in the same hospital with my DS1 was fab, and the midwives were that nice and helpful, one even staying 45 mins after her shift to see him being born as she had been with me for the whole day, my sisters experience wasn't quite the same. it depends on the midwife, yes I do think that they do play up for the camera slightly but wouldn't you if you were being filmed while doing your job? Obviously the pushing etc is edited, the programme is only an hour long and shows 4 different women, they couldn't show it all, but it does give people an insight into what it is like and the fact it isn't the same for everyone.

I found it mildly entertaining and informative. All the women s teaming their heads off at 1-2 cm and wailing about how they can't do it. Wait for 10 cm and transition love! 2 cm is nothing!

I watched it during my first pregnancy and it didn't scare me at all. DP didn't like it though. He said it DID scare me and I shouldn't watch it. However I think he was projecting.

Banning it is stupid. If it scares you, turn it off. Simple. Far scarier things in the viewing world then a bunch of women doing the most natural thin ever

"The problem is organisations like NCT who make out birth is some dream experience. They should manage your expectations more so you don't feel like a complete failure when you don't dilate, the baby gets stuck at a funny angle and the forceps come out. 7 out of 8 of our NCT group needed medical interventions. Not what we were 'promised.'"

Completely agree with this Cheese!

It seems to me that OBEM shows mostly natural, straightforward births. There is always some dramatic screaming because of course labour is a painful experience but equally there are lots of laughs and all lovely midwives. Of course, the last you see is the joy when the baby comes out, and that's not where the experience ends either!

Similarly to a PP I can't watch it anymore because it makes me sad I didn't have a birth like that but instead a very long labour ending in EMCS.

I love this! Although they all seem to have such normal births.

Find it highly amusing when partner is idiotic. Enjoy hurling abuse at them.

Never watched it, but i'm willing to bet that at the very least there'll be quite a few people out there who, due to this show, got a taste of what to really expect on the day, and were therefore a better birth partner because of it.

For this reason alone it should stay.

If it was left at our NCT class's idea of what to expect, DH would have been forgiven for expecting nothing worse than something similar to a longish trip to the dentist! The focus seemed to be on petrol in the car, snacks, magazines, and remembering your phone!

(The fact that it was my 4th meant i could put him straight and he was wonderful on the day (although still pretty traumatised!))

I wouldn't watch it as I don't regard childbirth as entertainment. I agree with a lot of the work of the NCT but some women think if they have a difficult labour, need help or it doesn't go to plan then they've failed. Which is utter nonsense.

It's no good pretending childbirth is all "ommmm" and meadows.

I watch it.
My first birth was a C-Sec due to positioning.
I was keen to have a v-bac for my 2nd birth but my local nhs wouldn't allow me to attend any classes as I had 'had a baby already'.
I went to my local NCT who told me I had 'failed' the first time and now had a chance to 'really be a mother' (oh, yes!).
Neither the NHS or the NCT gave me any idea of what vaginal birth could be like. I wish OBEM had been around then.

My 2nd birth was also a C-Sec due to positioning, in the end.

But I love to see other births, the kind I didn't experience.
(unlike the NCT person, I am fine with my C-Secs, I am just grateful both babies and I were alive and well, but I do find other kinds of births fascinating).

It's not going to be banned, don't be so daft. And stop reading rags like the mirror

Best advice yet.

I didn't know anyone actually bought and read The Mirror - it's not even good enough to be called a rag!