To replace partner with baby

[prettyknackered]

Kicked dp out of bed in place of dd. Dd and I have plenty of space and we can cosleep without the fear of rolling on her. Dp sleeps on the floor next to bed or on the sofa downstairs

Wikipedia

maybebabybee They're all pretty standard cultural expectations here in the UK.

(The threads on this site are testament to that!)

I respectfully disagree. Modern parenting has gone far more the other way. My best friend chose to formula feed and the grief she got for it was unbelievable.

Yup, sciences!!! With 1000 and one studies on the same subject, and none that says the same. Good thing is, you can pick and choose! Like Wikipedia articles, written by true, unbiased authors...

My first instinct was that it was fine to kick dp out as long as you had a spare room so that he could sleep in a decent bed.

But I've now read your update. If your dp would rather spend the money on a MacBook than a bed, then that's his choice - sofa or floor it is!

I've linked to another article too, so fuck off with the Wikipedia shaming. Some of the posters in here clearly need introducing to these concepts gently. Chucking journal articles at them isn't likely to lead to widespread understanding, is it?!

Disappointed what is wrong with respecting other's choices and realising actually there isn't a one size fits all approach to all families and all children?

I would fight tooth and nail for everybody's right to choose. But those choices should be made after digesting good quality information, eg the difference between bedsharing and cosleeping and the pros and cons of each. A friend is a health visitor and refuses to give anything but "it's dangerous" as advice to new parents rather than assessing the actual evidence of the benefits too.

People die in car accidents and running marathons all the time - we don't hear many people shouting that nobody should drive cars or run marathons!

I agree with you, disappointed, but what about parents who don't want to co-sleep not because they feel it's dangerous but that it just won't work for them?

I daresay my son would be as happy sleeping in our bed as he would in his cot, but DP and I would not be.

Could you put your current mattress on the floor and put a single next to it? Sort of like a bedside 'cot' for DH?
I still sleep on a mattress on the floor, btw, 5 years on. I sleep as well as I would in a bed.
I really don't understand adults who say they can't/won't sleep without their adult partner, but expect a tiny baby to sleep alone :/
As for happy parents = happy children, it really doesn't, necessarily. My neighbours love going out drinking, leaving their children with anyone who'll have them, or having loud house parties with cocaine. It makes them happy, their tired, scruffy, insecure children, less so.
Anyway, the OP's husband doesn't seem too put out. I suspect someone has let on that sex/intimacy can happen in places other than the parent's bed.

I really don't understand adults who say they can't/won't sleep without their adult partner, but expect a tiny baby to sleep alone :/

My baby doesn't sleep alone. He sleeps in a cot next to my bed. We can reach out and touch each other. I just don't want to sleep in a bed with him. I want to sleep in a bed with my DP. We are all perfectly happy with this.

Ah, so you happily co-sleep, then? My comment refers to people who don't :/

Most people on this thread understand co-sleeping to mean sleeping in bed with baby. The vast majority of babies do sleep in the same room as Mum and Dad until 6 months at least. I don't know any babies who don't, regardless of if they are formula fed or whatever.

Ridiculous - ask for a bed on a Facebook selling / free site if you're insistent about him sleeping elsewhere but a grown man shouldn't be 'kicked out' of his own bed.