WIBU to still send DD to PILs?

[NotAnotherMonday]

Today I had to have my Flu Jab. Dp was supposed to not be working so the plan was DD (4months) would go to PILs for the day, I'd have my jab then we'd have a few hours shopping or just chill at home watching a film. On Wednesday, Dp got asked if he could work 10-6pm today, and he said yes. Obviously I still needed someone to have DD while I went to have my Flu Jab so asked PILs if they could still have her for half an hour while I had my jab.

They text me after I'd left the doctors to say theyd taken DD to MILs parents so theyd drop her back off with me when they were done.

I will say PILs are in their mid-late 40s so more than capable of looking after a baby for a few hours. I posted on Facebook that id had a nice quiet morning while DD was having fun at her grandparents and dp was at work.

She was dropped off tired, but happy, having had a clean nappy and a feed at about 12.30.

I then got several messages off people saying I was selfish to leave DD with PILs while I had "a break" when Dp wasnt there. People have called me a bad mother as apparently I'm his childcare while he works.

So WIBU to let her go anyway? Or should I have tried to take her with me to the doctors?

God how dare you do shopping without wearing a sling. you must nevr put a baby down ever

unless when you say grandparents you mean a shoal of piranha fish and dd was dinner your friends are demented.

baby left with responsible adults and looked after and loved.wtf is the problem.

Just come back to see how the thread is going.

Finding the no prams rule in many surgeries surprising, although I can understand if space doesn't permit. Was quite pleased with new cheapy, lightweight buggy the other day as it was good for carrying upstairs at the doctors.

Genrally, I am first to take advantage of any babysitting available for appointments and the like but it's not always available. When DS was small (5months or less) I did have a filling with him strapped to my chest in a sling. That was an experience. He was totally fine of course. But I probably wouldn't choose to do that!

BTW that was a non-stealth boast about the filling situation!

Also sorry for typos.

This seems highly unlikely to have actually happened. Unless your "friends" are being sarcastic.

How could anyone would think you a bad mother for leaving your baby with loving grandparents for a few hours while you go to the doctors? My ds is 4 months. I left him with pils just to go to lunch with a friend the other day - if that makes me a bad mother then I don't care a bit! I got to eat a hot lunch, and they got to hang out with him. Everyone's happy!

Bemused at number of posters who seem to think OP should have taken baby to GP appointment when willing family childcare was available.
Had coil fitted when my daughter was 4 months old. Surgery has a no children rule for intimate examinations/procedures, fair enough though was promised it only took "two minutes". Had to leave her in waiting room with my 9yo while they had but one but three goes to insert coil, probably because I was ridiculously tense as I could hear baby screaming. I was dripping blood by the time it finally succeeded, just as my son burst into the room with the pushchair declaring he "couldn't take it any more".
If I had grandparents willing to help I'd bite their hands off!

Leaving aside the possibility that this may or may not have taken place...

I worked FT when the boys were babies (still do but that's irrelevant).

DH was my SAHP / unpaid childcare. We put the boys into nursery as soon as they were old enough for 2 mornings a week so DH could have some time off - not even with grandparents but "palmed off" with "total strangers"! (who after a short period stopped being strangers and became trusted friends who cared for them amazingly well).

They seem to have grown up OK and not one single person batted an eyelid that a stay-at-home father should have a couple of mornings child free.

Thanks for reminding me; I must rebook my flu jab.

Good grief, even if you just wanted to get your nails done and buy new shoes then you could have done so. Child being looked after by a grandparent. Gee whiz, call social services.

Some people need a short sharp blow to the head. With a shovel.

Yes, how very dare you allow grandparents time to bond with their grandchildren.

I hope friends are no longer on your fb contacts and blocked as they should be.

honeylulu Completely missing point here but... Is it not suppose to bleed when you mess with your cervix? Mine does all the time for routine smears.

You dropped your DD off with her GP so you could go to the doctors? I used to drop my kids off with their GP to go to the pub. In the middle of the day. Everyone was happy, who gives a fuck?

I genuinely cannot believe anyone would send those messages.

Unless of course you posted something like this on Facebook...

Sat at home getting smashed and smoking my crack pipe while the little shit is out the way at the GP's'

Then maybe it would be plausible.