WIBU to still send DD to PILs?

[NotAnotherMonday]

Today I had to have my Flu Jab. Dp was supposed to not be working so the plan was DD (4months) would go to PILs for the day, I'd have my jab then we'd have a few hours shopping or just chill at home watching a film. On Wednesday, Dp got asked if he could work 10-6pm today, and he said yes. Obviously I still needed someone to have DD while I went to have my Flu Jab so asked PILs if they could still have her for half an hour while I had my jab.

They text me after I'd left the doctors to say theyd taken DD to MILs parents so theyd drop her back off with me when they were done.

I will say PILs are in their mid-late 40s so more than capable of looking after a baby for a few hours. I posted on Facebook that id had a nice quiet morning while DD was having fun at her grandparents and dp was at work.

She was dropped off tired, but happy, having had a clean nappy and a feed at about 12.30.

I then got several messages off people saying I was selfish to leave DD with PILs while I had "a break" when Dp wasnt there. People have called me a bad mother as apparently I'm his childcare while he works.

So WIBU to let her go anyway? Or should I have tried to take her with me to the doctors?

I left my now 12 year old with my dad when she was 9 months because I needed to go to the hospital. She's now a stroppy, wilfull, madam who slams doors. I'm totally convinced its because I'm such an awful mother.
Or something.

Oh rubbish. This just didn't happen.

Nope sorry, I'm just not having this now.

Are you truly sure they aren't kidding? A misguided attempt at humour that doesn't translate to text? It just seems SO ludicrous that anyone would even bat an eyelid at grandparents hanging out with their grandkid for a couple of hours...

Where's The Last Leg's bullshit button when you need it?!

FWIW for the first 18 months of her life DH worked away and my parents lived in the UAE. Closest family on either side was 200 miles away. Close friends all had little babies of their own (antenatal group). DD was bottle fed but expressed milk (for 8 months) so she couldn't have been away from me for too long because the milk wouldn't keep. That's just how it was. I had about 36 hours a week with DH, so fucking off for a bit of "me time" was pretty low in the agenda.

Were they joking?? Surely those responses were sarcastic!

Nope I can't believe that anyone would actually type that to a friend...let alone 3 people

Only - nobody DID type it to anyone. It's bollocks.

For the life of me, I will never ever understand threads like this

Your FB people need to wind their stupid necks in!

People are not 'up in arms' ably not taking the baby for the Jab, just picking it up as a seperate point.

I've been criticised on here when I posted about regularly babysitting my GD from three weeks old and having her overnight.

I once took her shopping with me and my DD sat on the couch eating Strawberries, best immediately report ourselves to SS.

Oh and I had my GD whilst my DD had her flu jab.

How odd. My DSs paternal GF has his own access. He has him for tea once a week while I do my own thing, this wasn't requested by me it was requested by his GF who wants to spend quality alone time with DS. No ones ever said anything and I'm rarely going to the doctors while he's there, just normally pottering about the house cleaning or watching tv

Start was relatively plausible, dipped in the middle, terribly cliched ending. More passive-aggressive comments could have improved believability. 2/10 for effort.

What weird people you know.

No reason for her not to go to grandparents even if you could have taken her go doctors.

If they're good friends and this is out of character, could it be an attempt at a joke?

How odd.

Another echoing how odd,

I'm also shocked at the amount of silly posts questioning why you had childcare during the flu jab?

Good lord, parents are allowed the odd break people, and hey op was whooping it up big time..... Off for a flu jab then then a whole few hours

Sorry rant ahead..... This gives mothers a bad name for judging each other it's embarrassing to those of us with a brain and healthy attachment skills..........Bloody hell those Facebook idiots have serious issues... As do some posters

They would all desperately approve of me ds came with me for my flu and whooping cough jab and has not been away from me overnight in three years as in ever in his whole life ..... This does not make me a freaking saint or even a good mother it makes me a person without reliable childcare,

Op sensible woman, ignore the bleedin idiots, frankly they are showing their own insecurity

Ahem apologies for the rant (but not really)

I'm more concerned at what the OP actually said. She arranged for the in laws to look after the baby for half an hour while she had the jab.

They the decided to take the baby off elsewhere and would bring him/her back "when they were ready".

Is that really acceptable?!

My surgery had the no prams inside rule when I had to go for blood tests with DD as a newborn, I used a sling instead and she squirmed so much they couldn't do the blood extraction without getting another staff member to come in and hold her. It would have been so much easier if I had had someone to babysit for an hour.

Disappointedone yes it is 'acceptable' op isn't bothered so it's acceptable. End of.