The usual single mother bashing, eh? There but for the grace of god.
You can't get insurance against your husband changing into a total wanker and running off with his secretary/your best friend/his best friend.
You can work all the hours god sends and still people will blame you - I am a full time teacher, I mark exam papers in the summer and I tutor via skype when work is available....and still there are people happy to tell me it's my fault and I should 'take responsibility'. I am not sure what else I can do other than never sleep....I am still eligible for tax credits, despite a so-called professional salary, and without them would struggle. We will manage - but we won't get a holiday this year as I will need to work summer school to make the books balance.
It's amazing how you never see any kind of ire directed at the non-paying other parent, or the paying but can't be arsed to be supportive other parent, and even more amazing how many people are happy to be with men ('cos it's mainly men) who don't support their children and how those same people, friends and families will say 'well, she earns a good salary so she can pay for the children'. Never any consideration for how a single parent gets to work for 9am in location C, 6 miles away from the eldest child's school at B which doesn't open till 8:30am and which is located a mile in the opposite direction of nursery A where the youngest child needs to be and which doesn't open till 8:30am either. Remembering that the bus goes round the houses taking 40 minutes and only comes every 30 minutes, at 8:30am so your choice is leaving your child to put themselves in childcare (which the school won't allow you to do) or getting on the bus and being late anyway.
And to those suggesting I should 'take responsibility for my actions'...well, yes, I do. Every day. I support my children to the best of my abilities. I am not uneducated, I didn't get pregnant and then marry, I knew my ex very well before marrying (3 years), didn't have children for 6 years with him....he changed. It happens. He developed a god complex and now believes he shouldn't have to do anything he doesn't want to. He wasn't always like that - I couldn't have predicted it.
I am a single parent, not a second class citizen or something you wiped off your shoe. Shit happened. I deal with it. You have no fucking right to judge me but that won't stop you.