My neighbour is making me so stressed i feel ill.

[systemusername]

Lived in apartment for five years with dc who are teens.

About six months ago new single neighbour in their 60s moved to apartment underneath us.

FWIW I have lived in four apartments in last eight years and two houses before that and have never had a noise complaint.

New neighbour comes out of his apartment everytime I do. So if I go to the shop, work, bins etc he comes out. He always does it passive aggressively on the pretense of just bumping into me but it is everytime I leave the house and he always makes some comment of being able to hear the kids walking around, he brought his boys up to tiptoe etc. He has followed me round the shop before now.

We have carpet, rugs and do not wear shoes in the house. One dc is disabled so does drop things and sometimes run across the room which must be annoying but I instantly stop her from running.
The dc leave at 7am till 4.15pm and are in bed at nine. We are away every week from Friday night to Sunday night so literally he has less than 25 hours of us being in the house awake each week out of 168 hours!
They do not play music without headphones etc.
He has even made digs about hearing other teens walk past his house on the way to school.

He is making me feel anxious and trapped in my own home. I've spoken to landlord but nothing has changed.

[Xenadog]

OP I would be full on assertive with him so when he next tries to get you to speak about the nose or whatever simply say, "If you have a complaint put it in writing and I will pass it to my landlord and the council. I don't want to speak to you about this. Good day." Then you walk away.

Do not engage in any conversation with him after this. A curt good morning/evening at most. You need to put those boundaries in place.

I appreciate this is really hard to do after all we are taught to be polite and considerate to others but he isn't being polite or considerate to you is he?

If he continues trying to speak to you about this I would then tell him you regard this as harassment and if it continues will be involving the police. I'd be keeping a log of every time he tries to contact you and then speak to the local police about this.

OP, you don't have to put up with this. Oh and as a secondary teacher I think it's excellent that you get your teens to go to bed at a reasonable time!

[amarmai]

politeness is a trap in sits like this. Next time he does his usual complaint , say SO MOVE THEN.

[OnlyLovers]

I agree with Where, you need to practise being assertive and reply to him directly and robustly, not tell him about imaginary boyfriends or pretend to be on your phone every time you come out – why should you?

In the nicest way, get a bit of backbone and stand up for yourself.

[NoonAim]

Sometimes, people of this age can be remarkably bossy and entitled and expect the world to revolve around them

Oh for goodness sake.