Pregnant Sister AIBU?

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So SIL is pregnant with twins (IVF pregnancy), & I'm feeling pretty fed up with her (please tell me I'm being unreasonable so I can shake it off) basically since she announced she has been very O.T.T, saying she can't clean, can't do anything strenuous, shes going to be huge, her sickness is terrible, basically she has said she should have bed rest because her pregnancy is precious, she rang my mum saying she had a cold, mum told her to take a paracetamol (shes a nurse) but she ignored her anyway went to the doctors who basically told her the same thing, she also keeps going on about how her babies should be very intelligent because shes been taking extra folic acid & supplements for a year.

I've tried to offer her advice about things to aid sickness, based on my experience and she shot me down saying it's much worse with twins, anything I say she shoots me down, I'm trying to bond with her over the pregnancy but she's acting like the only person who has ever been pregnant . She also said she won't be going to term (which is common with twins anyway) because her babies are more precious, she said this in front of our cousin who had a very late loss (7 months). I know IVF is very a hard emotional thing to go through but I can't seem to stop wanting to bang my head against a wall when I see her. AIBU?

thegoldenlemon I am really sorry to hear of your experiences and it does make me realise how lucky we all are when our babies make into the world safely.

Did she really use the words, "I am not going to term because my babies are more precious than average"? I find that really hard to believe. I accept she probably said something insensitive in front of your cousin, which is of course wrong, but I really find it hard to believe she used the phrase "more precious than yours" or words to that effect.

Aside from that, I'd leave her alone. She may be annoying you, but she'll have suffered worse than annoyance to conceive through IVF. In all likelihood she has other risk factors if she needed to use IVF and she will be terrified at every moment. You don't have to encourage her but just humour her. God knows you get enough people who insist you don't know your own mind when you're pregnant at the best of times.