to have shouted at the knobhead who parked in a parent and child space?!

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(pre-thread warning: I'm a bit of a grumpy arsehole most of the time)

So, about two hours ago, myself, DH and DD (6 months) went to tescos. Headed for the parent and child spaces, but they were all full. I saw a couple, probably in their mid-30's loading their shopping into their car - not a child or car seat in sight. So DH pulled into a space just across the way from them. I made a big show of struggling to get DD out of her car seat in the normal sized space, and as we walked past I said "nice to see you struggling to get all your kids into your car in that massive space"

The man didn't know what to say, and the woman just put her head down and pretended not to have heard me.
Was I BU? Or does everyone else get The Rage when childless people park in parent and child spaces?!

Sirzy I struggle to think of an invisible disability that doesn't qualify for a blue badge that needs a larger space. Some visible ones don't but again they're visible.

How do you know the disabled spaces weren't full when they were parking Tali?

Well then you are very naive about the struggles of people with disabilities.

On the other hand if I see a car in a disabled spot without a badge and the driver isn't there I've been known to report it at the customer help desk.

There are plenty of disabled people without blue badges. My severely disabled son has no automatic entitlement to one and may not have been given one if we lived in a different area.

On the occasions I've done it Maud the car park hasn't been full anywhere and no blue badge was displayed.

And, just because you don't see a child getting OUT of the car, doesn't mean one doesn't get back IN. My DSIL got told off by someone for using a P&C when there was just her in the car...she held her temper as she could see her DH approaching with their toddler and baby in the buggy. He'd gone off to do a few errands and took the kids to the cafe so she'd dropped them at the other end of the high street, drove to the supermarket, parked up in the P&C, did the weekly shopping only to be confronted. Apparently the look on the ranting woman's face as she slinked off was a picture when DSIL and DBIL got the kids in the back.

I agree Sirzy

So Tali, you're just like the wanker that made the dickish PA comment to me this week, without bothering to check if you were actually in the right, or the OP "shouting" at someone and calling them "a knobhead" on the Internet.

Well I'm glad you're happy with that.

You see this is why people like me don't go out as much as we used to, or we can, because people like you make our lives even harder. But as long as you do it "happily" eh.

Fucking hell, this is why I don't post on threads like this, I should know better.

So you can't say anything to anyone on the off chance they're disabled and need extra space? I have an invisible disability (several), I'm not ignorant about disabilities. Yet when there are disabled spaces available and a person parks in a parent and child space, it looks a lot more like plain twattish actions.

I agree with potaytoh if all spaces were a decent size we wouldn't have this issue

you're absolutely adamant that you couldn't possibly, even slightly, even a teeny teeny bit wrong, aren't you Tali?

In spite of other posters outlining scenarios in which you would be a total arse to leave an anonymous note?

Not very nice.

So it's fine for you to make someone like purple feel awful just so you can make some sort of point?

You sound very ignorant to me Tali

Learning disabilities can have a huge impact on mobility. Try getting an older child or adult in full meltdown in or out of a car and you would see the need for extra space.

How many times do people have to say that there are disabilities and difficulties not covered by a blue badge?

Surely you get a blue badge if you are assessed as needing one? If you don't get one then you aren't entitled to use the parking spots and have to park wherever everyone else parks.

Purple I've been reduced to the verge of tears before by a woman shouting abuse at me for using a disabled toilet. So no, don't pretend I don't know what it's like to be disabled and have people treat you like shit.

Are you honestly telling me you believe most people who park in parent and child spaces are disabled? When there are disabled spaces? And no blue badges (I don't have one either)?

Again someone having a meltdown would be visible.

Madeline do you really think it's as simple as that?

To be fair Madeline the assessment process is poor.

Jeez it's not about who is more deserving of good parking spaces......just about some arseholes who abuse the system. IME, not perhaps a random controlled sample, people who abuse P and T spaces are Just arses. They wouldn't dare misuse a disabled spot so they go to the next available ones.

So unless the person is actually having a meltdown you don't think they would be entitled to a space?

Yup. Ignorant.

That's what I've found as well Madeline. Both times I've seen it the people had no obvious mobility issues (I'm aware these aren't always visible) no badge and no clear reason to be there. I highly doubt it was down to disability when there were at least 6 disabled spaces

Lots of people don't qualify for a blue badge - but still need one (my friend has been turned down 3 times, for her son who uses a sn buggy, has massive meltdowns and has zero sense of danger).

A child doesn't need to be in full on meltdown, for a parent to know that one is possible.

Nobody is suggesting that everyone who parks in a p+c space without children is disabled, don't be daft, but it might be a good idea to give people the benefit of the doubt, especially when it isn't actually that big a deal!