To struggle with house guests?

[Marcher]

We have my parents stay for 4-5 nights regularly.
I really struggle with having to cook, clean, entertain and deal with them for the duration.
Is it just me? How do other people do it without destroying the relationship??

well you're the only one who can change things for the better. Grow a thicker skin than your pils, cut back on the length and frequency of visits, insist on your dh doing the majority of 'looking after' his parents when they are there. Take the opportunity to leave dh and pil with the kids and go have a day out by yourself/with friends.

Treat them like children who need to be shown firm boundaries with consequences if they cross them. Next time they offer to cook, just remind them once and then go make your dc and own meal. Your dh can either step up and take charge of the situation or sit there and act offended along with his parents. If they leave be firm about it - no coming back after sulking etc.

You don't have to be a martyr to your own detriment and you don't have to put up with everyone around you taking the piss out of you. Stand up for yourself and refuse to get involved with things you don't want, none of them are going to take your feelings into consideration or make things better for you so you're going to have to do it yourself - depends how badly you want it though

meh - got confused, it's your parents

my advice is still the same though!

I'm quite horrified at all these "guest" stories and count myself very fortunate that my parents (and anyone else!) just gets stuck in to whatever needs doing. Dad will happily make dinner even though the kitchen gets covered with pots and pans! And Mum will give DD her bath which is a break for me.

You really need to put your foot down here OP. What happens when (if) you visit THEM?