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DH gave me the same present as last year

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thesunonlyshinesonTV · 17/10/2015 20:20

Last year for my birthday DH got me a silver diamanté necklace and matching earrings all very nice.

This year he asked me what I wanted and I said some more jewellery as I have hardly any. So I opened the box and it is exactly the same set as last year. I did not saying anything at the time but am still a bit bewildered.

Is this a man thing? would you have said anything.

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SpendSpendSpend · 17/10/2015 20:22

My dh got me the same mothers day card three years running!!!!

NotAnotherMonday · 17/10/2015 20:22

I'd have laughed and told him, but my Dp would see the funny side of it.

SpendSpendSpend · 17/10/2015 20:22

Yes i would of said something and see if he could return it

Jeffreythegiraffe · 17/10/2015 20:24

Yes say something, as said above, he may be able to return it.

Crazypetlady · 17/10/2015 20:25

I have to check have you seen last years present today?

greenhill · 17/10/2015 20:25

Why didn't you say anything when you unwrapped it? Hasn't he seen you wear the other jewellery?

fuzzywuzzy · 17/10/2015 20:28

Did he have a groupon offer, they do the same jewellery offers repeatedly.

Tell him, he gave you that set last year and arrange a time to go together to exchange it.

Rowgtfc72 · 17/10/2015 20:29

Dh picked his dads card this year and was really pleased with himself till I pointed out its the same one he got him last year!
If you can get the receipt could you choose something else and quietly point out you already have one?

HairySubject · 17/10/2015 20:31

I would say something so you can exchange it. At least he knows what he likes.

NigelLikesSalad · 17/10/2015 20:31

DH bought me the same birthday card from tesco three years in a row. I'm waiting to see if he can get the same one again this year. Possibly a man thing, you liked last year's, he probably thought buying something Similar was a safe bed and was drawn to the same set as last year without realizing.

NigelLikesSalad · 17/10/2015 20:32
  • bet not bed....
Original poster
thesunonlyshinesonTV · 17/10/2015 20:34

Yes last year's present is up on the shelf next to this year's identical present
Hmm

Greenhill I am a bit perplexed as I wear the other set a lot, I mean can you really not remember what you bought your nearest and dearest for their last birthday?

Will have to tell him I think, I didn't want to offend him as he chose it with the children, so they never noticed either. All three must walk round with blinkers on.

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Mynameismummy · 17/10/2015 20:38

My DH has done virtually the same to me....on 4 or 5 occasions! They just have a blind spot for that sort of thing is the only (crap) explanation I can offer.....!!

greenhill · 17/10/2015 20:39

That's really strange! How could they not notice it was identical to one you wear regularly?

Happy birthday thesun I love your user name, it takes me back...

Here have some Flowers and Cake and some Wine

AwfulBeryl · 17/10/2015 20:40

Grin I would point it out and laugh about it too. He might be able to return it for something you haven't already got.
At least he knows what sort of thing you like.

fastdaytears · 17/10/2015 20:41

You need to tell him! Sorry!

Good luck and happy birthday Wine

SilverShadows · 17/10/2015 20:41

My husband once bought me the same top that I already owned, and had worn a fair bit since buying. I pointed it out and he said "I thought it looked like something you would wear"!

AnneSansTete · 17/10/2015 20:41

I asked dh to get me a nice photo in a frame as money is tight atm. There is just one photo of me (with ds) up in the house. He decided to print that one out and put it in a frame as 'he knew it was a photo I liked'. I do like it but I don't want the same picture up in every different room in the house!

Forestdreams · 17/10/2015 20:42

Tell him! Have you worn the other set much?

MrsCorbyn · 17/10/2015 20:44

I think I'm very fortunate in that my dp is incredibly thoughtful but that would be difficult for me, I would feel unloved

Forestdreams · 17/10/2015 20:46

Oops sorry, missed your update.

You can compliment his taste on last year's choice but say this year's is a tad conservative.

I can see why it happens. He ws perhaps drawn to the second set because it looked strangely familiar...

Original poster
thesunonlyshinesonTV · 17/10/2015 20:46

Thanks for the birthday wishes Smile

Yes I wore it most days, I still don't get how none of them noticed, even teen dd.

He means well, but he is useless at presents some times.

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lunar1 · 17/10/2015 20:49

Tell him, before you get the last one of the 3 for2 for Christmas!

Pasithea · 17/10/2015 20:52

Lucky you. I'm still waiting for last Christmas and birthday presents.

BikeRunSki · 17/10/2015 20:52

Tell him and see if he can return it!

I get the same present from DH every year. It's tenners in an envelope. Every year he asks me what I'd like and I say "someone to pay some thought to what I'd like". He has known he for 18 years, we live in the same house, and share the laundry (not to mention having the same children and being married for 15 years) you'd have thought he'd have a clue. It would just be nice to have a parcel to open on my birthday and think "ah yes, DH has thought about me for more than 3 seconds and found something i like"