To think people should visit poorly relatives in hospital

[Ninarina]

My mum has been in hospital for a week now and is still v v poorly. No sign of being discharged. We visit every day, twice a day, but noticed that a couple of ladies on her ward have had no visitors at all. One lady had been there a month with no visitors. I thought she was out of it but she started chatting was coherent and said she has two daughters and a son who is married. Where are they??? She needed slippers but no one brought her any so staff put towels on her feet. It's so sad. Another woman was wailing and seemed in distress. We put the TV on and she knew all the answers on The Chase so clearly all there mentally. Why do people not visit their poorly families? Apart from child sex abuse what could their mothers have done to make their grown up kids abandon them like this? I'm from Asian family so it's inconceivable to me and I hope I don't sound awful but this breaks my heart. Can anyone please explain?

She was frightened and lonely.I talked to her a lot at night.i often wonder what became of her.

We have a lady in my hospital right now who has been there for over 3 months, and she has never had a visitor. Very sad. She doesn't have any family. Most people have at least someone to visit them at least every now and then.

I won't be visiting my dad when he is in hospital or a care home, and I won't have an ounce of guilt about it.

I have said to my Son that there is no need to visit me if I end up in a care home.

Brioche201 "It is children too.When one of my DC was in hospital for a long time there was a girl of 15 who never had a single visitor in the 3 weeks she was in there."

That is desperately sad.

I work as a nurse. Lots of patients on our ward don't get many visitors. There's lots of reasons - family fallings out, travel distance, work / family commitments and / or that close family have all died. The only time it really annoys me is when family are too busy to come in and see their relatives, until the second they are told their family member's house needs to be sold to pay for long-term care (which they view as being their inheritance) and then they seem to have all the time in the world to come in and argue with social services. That's not to say the system of paying for long-term care doesn't annoy me too, but it is sad when you see people who only view their relatives in terms of their inheritance value. And it happens depressingly often.

My ex mil is as I write dying in hospital. My lovely sil (feels wrong to call her ex) lives abroad and can't get home. I've just literally shouted at my knob of an ex husband to get his lazy arse to the hospital to be with his mum in her last hours. She couldn't stand me when I was married to him but if I find out he leaves her I will go and sit with her til the end, she's morphined up, she won't know who I am but I feel so strongly that she shouldn't die alone. I was so blessed I was able to sit with my own DM, and hold her hand and chunter away for hours.

One of my friends used to visit her mum when she was in hospital. None of her other 4 children did because of the horrendous abuse they experienced from their mum when kids.

But some people are selfish and can't be bothered. Very sad.

And some people have no family and are very isolated. When you are very elderly the chances are your friends will either be dead, or be ill or housebound themselves.