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To wince at the C word on MN

309 replies

Yarboosucks · 06/10/2015 18:43

I am certainly no prude and have not lived a sheltered life…. But I am amazed at the use of the c-word on here. I just don't get the apparent acceptance to use a reference to female genitalia as an insult. Do people use that word in RL or is it just here?

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 07/10/2015 09:49

I have teen DSs and I would not be happy to hear them say it.

Dawndonnaagain · 07/10/2015 09:51

I'm a retired history lecturer. The point was that I have a more than reasonable vocabulary and I swear. As I've stated on these threads before my social mores are not yours although I do hope I don't judge in the same abominable fashion as some here, but the swearing; I really don't give a damn!

TheDowagerCuntess · 07/10/2015 09:52

I would divorce anyone, let alone a husband, who called me a 'fucking cunt'. That's vicious.

SoupDragon · 07/10/2015 09:53

I only object to it (and other swear words) when used in a user name or thread title.

mileend2bermondsey · 07/10/2015 09:53

That could be someone who lectures hairdressers or trainee car mechanics
Wow. you really do think you are better than everyone don't you? How insulting. What job do you do from up in your ivory tower? None of those menial jobs for peasants that you mentioned I assume? You really are ignorant.

TheDowagerCuntess · 07/10/2015 09:54

Sorry Soup.

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Yarboosucks · 07/10/2015 10:01

Actually the word "class" on here has the same effect on me. Once that word comes into a discussion, it never goes well and I just don't buy into those distinctions.

Swearing is part of our language and sometimes can contribute, so I have no blanket objection to swearing. The type and extent of swear words that someone uses does say a lot about them to me; it indicates, apart from anything, how much they care about what others thinks of them. The line "I don't care what people think about me" bothers me and I tend to avoid people who really think like that, because it tends to be symptomatic of other unattractive personality traits.

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pinkfrocks · 07/10/2015 10:04

milend
I'm sure your comments are aimed at Dawn who felt she had to pull rank by saying she was articulate because she was a retired lecturer and that Royalty swears.

I have known zillions of lecturers, retired and not, and some can't string a sentence together. That was the point.

Underbeneathsies · 07/10/2015 10:41

I don't find the word cunt objectionable.
Same as I don't find the word appendix objectionable.

I think the malice of calling anyone anything in a derogatory manner is offensive.
Calling someone a chick, a prick, a cock or a bird, a knob or a slit is commonplace, but it's the malice that makes it offensive.

I mean we use the words "toe rag", whatever that is (a sock?) to describe someone who is pretty useless. It's the context and tone, the malice and aggression, that make something offensive.

I realise I may be in the minority as I'm not in the UK, and we don't have a class system here, so maybe my opinion is moot.

Bubbletree4 · 07/10/2015 10:45

I do enjoy swearing and use the word in RL and on here. So does my dh.

mileend2bermondsey · 07/10/2015 10:47

She wasn't 'pulling rank' at all pink Simply refuting your ridiculous claim that swearing is only for the uneducated. Stop trying to twist it.

stillyummy · 07/10/2015 10:50

I use this t as a sware word but would never use it to refer to my or anyone else's lady bits. I saw a porno once where some woman screamed "fuck my cunt" ruined the mood.

Goodforsolong · 07/10/2015 10:50

Honestly under it's not a class thing, but some posters are getting their knickers in twist about it, and trying to belittle anyone using it by saying they judge them by class. Which is far more nasty then any swear words. Because whatever class you come from doesn't make you a better or worse person. The only thing that would make you a lesser person, is by your own actions, regardless of class.

You know, actions speak louder then words Wink

ExitPursuedByABear · 07/10/2015 10:50

Ahem

I thought I was the MN resident prude?

ExitPursuedByABear · 07/10/2015 10:52

It's odd actually as it is also DD's least favourite word.

I swear like a trooper, but it is just one word I have never felt comfortable with and have never used.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 07/10/2015 10:57

Mwahahaha this is so amusing all the pearl clutchers branding other people scummy/uneducated/wouldn't want to hang around people like that.
Ermm- good!

YellowBucket · 07/10/2015 10:58

I never really said the word until I found MN! This place normalised it and thanks to one poster (can't think who) I now sing it. nothing is ever my fault!

< first time I ever wrote the word! Warning, this song is very catchy
sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 07/10/2015 10:58

So a porno where a woman yelled 'pound my pussy' would have added far more class hey? Hmm

MrsP777x · 07/10/2015 11:04

Stillyummy I can see where you're coming from. I would physically vomit if a man was to say to me "let me touch your cunt" etc. Really doesn't do it for me. I have no problems with the word whatsoever as an insult but I think that's the only way I can tolerate the word, not in a sexual manner.

Seems like a lot of people on here were born with silver spoons up their cunts in their mouths.

Notoedike · 07/10/2015 11:12

I love the word cunt - but not in front of kids and unfortunately not in front of many of my friends who find it offensive - they tend not to be bothered by penis related swear words though and use those terms liberally which I remain completely confused about - as are they!

Grazia1984 · 07/10/2015 11:15

As my mother , a teacher, always said swearing is a sign of a very limited vocabularly. I don't swear and my teenagers don't most of the time.

if you go on a bus in a rough area and find some building workers etc you will find every other word is fucking this and fucking that.

As my family are mostly doctors we would always use vagina.
The idea that words like bitch or female genitalia or old woman or gay shoudl be insults is pretty awful and shows how our language is fairly non feminst at times although I accept some men call other men by names for male genitalia too.

Dawndonnaagain · 07/10/2015 11:24

Pink Do fuck off, there's a love. You're getting on my nerves. I didn't try to pull rank. I retired to look after a severely disabled dh and my three disabled children, I've got better things to do than pull rank when I so obviously have no need to.

SoupDragon · 07/10/2015 11:24

Sorry Soup.

Don't apologise, just change your fucking name...

Wink
badtime · 07/10/2015 11:30

Someone has to say they are a retired lecturer? Wow- that really impresses. That could be someone who lectures hairdressers or trainee car mechanics, doesn't have to be an Oxbridge don .

pinkfrocks, I can't believe you criticised Dawndonna for pointing out that she is a retired lecturer when on a previous page you said:

if you knew my work, then you'd see how wrong that was ...

now what might that be? Best selling novelist, broadsheet columnist, academic linguist- maybe all of them

Or maybe none of them? The only thing I can be sure you are is a hypocrite.

Furthermore, you were actually trying to make an argument from authority, whilst Dawndonna was just pointing out that she was not inarticulate.

Dawndonnaagain · 07/10/2015 11:35

mileend, badtime
Thank you!
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