To try to get pregnant even though I'm bridesmaid?

[ThePartyArtist]

I've been invited by my best friend to be bridesmaid, along with several other girls. We've been friends since school and I am really over the moon to be asked. The wedding is August 2016. DP and I have been thinking of starting trying for a baby around December / January which could mean being very very near the due date at the time of the wedding. I know there are no guarantees we'll get pregnant when we try so don't want to put it off for the sake of a wedding. But is it better to wait until after her wedding to try? Or start trying later so I'd be further from my due date at the time of the wedding?

I waited a couple of months so that at most I would be 4 months pregnant at the wedding rather than 6, it really was only a matter of two months, and I loved the dress! However nature had her own plans and I discovered I was miscarrying at 6 weeks on the day of the wedding. Still was able to attend the whole thing so meant I had some nice memories of what would have been an otherwise horrible day. You can't predict what will happen!

Another friends wedding that I went to, the grooms sister gave birth on the morning of their wedding and still managed to escape (after much pleading with the midwives) for a few hours to attend the ceremony which was lovely. I think they had to go back in after it had finished!!

I don't really think you need to "discuss" anything with the bride to be, it's between you & your other half.
Ok if you become pregnant you will have to tell here.
But effectively telling her you are TTC- I wouldn't.

Maybe that's more with me thinking it'll jinx things. I know a few couples who "announced" they were TTC & they ended up taking at least 18 months to even become pregnant.
Although I appreciate that is another debate altogether!

Obviously I'm unusual in discussing things that are personal with my best friends then? I didnt mean in an "asking for permission" way!

You're not necessarily unusual, but the OP shouldn't feel obliged to share anything that she wouldn't otherwise were her friend not getting married and had she not been asked to be bridesmaid.

I wouldn't have dreamt of telling anyone when we were TTC, didn't tell anyone at all that I was pregnant until after 12 week scan, and managed to hide from most people that I was pregnant this time round until after 20 weeks as there were some complications and we didn't want to have to deal with either questions or sympathy from people if the news wasn't good. Some people are completely the opposite, and neither is wrong or right, just that being someone's bridesmaid doesn't entitle them to the details of your plans if you wouldn't have told them otherwise.