Am I being PFB regarding pre-school situation?

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Happy to be supported or told I'm completely overreacting here - I just need some detached responses please.
My dd is 2.5. She started at 2 preschools which I took her out of- first one- wasn't happy with environment- very small portacabin- she was youngest by far and outside area not good
Second one- inside was fine but outdoor area unsafe and not completely secure.
Visited 3 more- ruled one out as no outdoor space, another as the outdoor space was was in a back garden and didn't seem safe.
Leaves me one option locally everything fine regarding outdoor space- very secure and safe only issue is the toilets are down a corridor so children when toilet trained taje themselves off to the loo- Im worried this could be a potential accident hotspot- drowning risk, slipping on water etc
My dh thinks I'm utterly ridiculous he thinks I need to just pick one and get her settled as we have dc2 on way shortly.
I want her to be able to go preschool- she would love it but I'm unhappy with my only option- would you be concerned re:toilet situation or am I massively overthinking this?
Thanks

Thank you all glad I posted yesterday- I needed telling.
Going this morning for a settling in session- please keep fingers crossed that A. I don't uncover any other issues and B. I don't spot any murderous tendancies among the toddlers

Hope your little one has a lovely session today :-)

Sneaky critters, toddlers. Can't trust a one of 'em.

Hope your little one has an ace time today.

Well done taking it on the chin op, I'm sure it will go just fine, but good luck anyway

This has to be my favourite PFB line of all time:

"I thought maybe if they filled the sinks and fell in or had their head held down by another child it could be within the realms of possibilities?!"

I had brought into this thread until that very point

I tried to make my pfb's nursery remove anything string-like longer than an inch since it didn't pass my personal safety inspection. They were very patient . It will get easier.

Worrying Tamara I am serious- this is how my brain works?! My poor DH he deals with my pfb sernarios on a daily basis
Thanks for the good luck wishes :)

Reni you sound like my kinda woman :)

My sister argued her pfb's nursery should not have pencils accessible, a child might walk around with them in their mouth, fall and embedd the pencil through the roof of their mouth into their brain. This nursery was very patient, too. You are not alone, they will have heard it all.

When you go for the settling in session try to take a step back and let your DD explore a little herself, if she is so inclined.

Don't helicopter around her too much. Have a cup of coffee with the staff if offered. Let her try to be independent, and try not to see risks where there are none.

I have had 3 DDs go through preschool (and primary and secondary schools too).

No child ever drowned themselves or any other in the toilets or the sinks. At preschool they were mostly shepherded to the toilet anyway.

Our preschool had no outdoor area. They went to a field, or the owner of a nearby large house often lent them his garden. They had to walk to either. Good exercise and never a problem.

Relax. I know it is hard, but you need to.

OP Bless you.

Good luck. It is very weird and hard to separate from your little one. There is no magic that makes it easy. Its a case of gradually getting used to it on both your parts.

Hi all thought Id update- settling session went well and after the first chunk of this session I've left her at the preschool. She was giggling and playing really nicely I still am worrying like made but the staff have been really reassuring and my dd was having so much fun that Im hoping she'll be fine- thank you for the 'talking to' think I needed to be told- I was close to ruling that one out altogether :)

If you see this child at the nursery, then your fears may not be without merit.

Otherwise, you are being PFB.

How lovely, OP. She will have a great time and the staff are very used to making reassuring noises quite patiently, many of us have been very nervous and "safety inspected" every activity in the nurseries.

Were you the OP that had a thread about the carpark and the plastic fences for the play area?

I didn't even view DD1s pre-school before hand. Just stood in the doorway on the day for 5 mins and then left. Maybe I should have? Maybe I am actually a bit neglectful in that regard.

My brain does work like yours though, as I said on the worst case scenario thread yesterday, but even I wouldn't be imagining murderous toddlers. I am glad your DD seems to be having fun, and I hope you won't worry too much.

You do realise none of these places would be allowed to run as nurseries if they were unsecure or unsafe. I'm glad you've calmed down a bit. Your anxiety will make your child anxious. Just let her enjoy and be happy.

I do that all the time . You might see children making stuff with playdough, I see them choking. You see them climbing a tree, I see broken necks and arms. You see a blissful moment of paddling in a fountain, I see a bladder infection.

I have become really good at reigning myself in, having very adventurous dc.

its really hard when they are so young my ds started at 2.5- bit i was lucky it was next to the hall where we went to playgroup so had seen the staff do the toilet run/outside etc still i was v v worried (dangerous heavy toys my main concern)- but had also got to know the staff who were lovely with the kids and that was the main thing in the end that put my mind at rest, he loved it...hope your dd does as well

Thanks all :) yes soup that was me another saga in my quest for an acceptable preschool- I have form for changing though I had 5 different driving instructors before I settled but that's another thread.
Anyhow dd very chirpy and saying bye to the other kids on way out they said she's been fine :)