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AIBU?

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Original poster

to ask how your child's first day at nursery was?

118 replies

Twinklestar2 · 27/09/2015 22:57

I'm returning to work in the next couple of weeks so my son goes starts nursery tomorrow, 8am-6pm! Gosh it feels like a long day and i'm so worried he won't sleep as he's not one to sleep outside the house, he likes his own cot.

How was your child's first day at nursery? Please reassure me! he's 13 months.

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WhatstheT · 28/09/2015 12:51

sproketmx

In my DD's nursery they have a room for babies up to a certain development level (not age) they have 6 babies max and 2 staff then when they move up it's 2 staff to 4 babies ratio, then obviously you get to the 2/3 year olds just before nursery and the groups get bigger.

Her nursery room is a "home from home" with sofas, cot, bed, and all the toys and things you would find at home. They have trips to the park, a huge garden to play in, music, dancing, sand play, "sensory" play, ... well basically anything you do at home they do there.

The nurseries that do cater to babies have to follow very different rules for them, it's not like a classroom!

Thelushinthepub · 28/09/2015 12:52

Sproke as people have said repeatedly, you don't know what a nursery is. So your observations and opinions on them aren't really relevant to the thread

sproketmx · 28/09/2015 13:01

I'm not saying I did as I said before I didn't know.bi didn't realise this happened in actual people's lives. Just thought it was posh folk dumping their kids. I really am shocked that people have a situation where they have to put their kids in a nursery that young or be homeless. It genuinely has

WhatstheT · 28/09/2015 13:05

I really am shocked that people have a situation where they have to put their kids in a nursery that young or be homeless

Me and my partner both earn minimum wage, we pay in part for the nursery and part paid by tax credits.

If we didn't work then of course we wouldn't be homeless, we'd be on benefits.. and who would want that as a viable option unless there was nothing else??

sproketmx · 28/09/2015 13:07

That makes me sad whatsthet it really does.

WhatstheT · 28/09/2015 13:08

That makes me sad whatsthet it really does

What exactly makes you sad?...

Etak15 · 28/09/2015 13:08

Lushinthepub - bit of a generalisation ' non skilled shiftworkers' myself and lots of people I know are shiftworkers all professionals (different jobs).
I am lucky enough to be able to work shifts round dh's work with family for backup, I do know a few people with babies in nursery though - they are fine, although usually not full time hours. I also have a friend who is a live nanny who earns less than £1000 a month. So maybe a nanny is a possible alternative for people who are paying £1200 for nursery.

Etak15 · 28/09/2015 13:09

*Live in nanny

hazeyjane · 28/09/2015 13:11

Stroke, of course there are day nurseries in Fife, a quick Google shows nurseries that take babies.

I think you are being a bit disingenuous - 'posh folk dumping their kids' don't be so bloody daft.

WhatstheT · 28/09/2015 13:17

I definitely don't pay anywhere near that much for nursery. I specifically picked the nursery so she was away from home but in a nice environment with a small group her age.

She was very cautious of others and cried a lot when other people were around, and had not been with many other babies. She's only been in nursery 3 weeks and the difference in her is amazing. Lots more babbling, standing, pulling herself up, better nap pattern. Really taken a shine to the girls who look after her.

And she smiles whenever we have visitors and other children around now :)

But that's besides the point.

Stop being a judgemental dick.

Thelushinthepub · 28/09/2015 13:17

Sorry there are lots of skilled work in shifts - nurses doctors police etc I do realise that. In my experience people already tend to be in those jobs though rather than take them on to fit around the children which is how I've read sporkes recommendation to do it

jorahmormont · 28/09/2015 13:17

"Just thought it was posh folk dumping their kids".

Jesus Christ. I wish we were in any way posh. Quite the opposite actually.

Thelushinthepub · 28/09/2015 13:18

Etak- nanny is an alternative just as a childminder is but you pick the one that works best for your family

sproketmx · 28/09/2015 13:23

Yeh my friends mums my midwife n she works shifts and does on call work. I just imagine in my head a nanny's like what the queen n that have. Like u read in the papers about the prince n that having a nanny etc. I didn't think this was actually feasible for real people apart from the elite.

Thelushinthepub · 28/09/2015 13:25

maybe you should get out of your little town

WhatstheT · 28/09/2015 13:27

So nannies and nurseries are for the elite and posh people and the less wealthy should stay at home with the children and live off what...?

I think you have it arse roads round.

sproketmx · 28/09/2015 13:34

Oh hell no. The rest of the world's gone mental. I'm staying put.

53rdAndBird · 28/09/2015 13:35

I've got this picture in my head of wee babies in nursery like how they used to be taken away after you had them and folk stared at them through a window.

Er what? No, it's nothing at all like that.

Why on earth are you sad about people putting babies in nursery if you don't know what nurseries are like?

53rdAndBird · 28/09/2015 13:40

I mean, that would be like me saying "Oh how terrible, babies living in Fife! All that coal mining! I imagine they send them down the mines at five years old like in the old days, poor things!"

BockCadger · 28/09/2015 13:52

I fully agree with nursery workers having superpowers. My child's nursery is amazing.

I find it hard to believe that some people just don't get the jist of nurseries. Nobody is that sheltered.

BockCadger · 28/09/2015 13:54

Back to the original question, my child's first full day was great. A bit cranky in the morning, obviously feeling the separation but absolutely loved it in the afternoon after nap time. You might find it takes your DC a long time to settle, as in a few weeks, but as PP have said, you'll work out they cry when you leave and then are happy as larry about 10 seconds after you've walked out the door wracked with guilt

sproketmx · 28/09/2015 13:56

I just don't think it's fair for a mum to have to leave her baby for so long at such a young age. Genuinely don't know how some of u do it. Ma grandads and ma dad and uncles were down the pits from 14 and 15 and my gran worked in the factory a different shift, my mum worked in the pub, ma auntie in the wimpy on Saturdays so there was always family there for each other. That's how I was raised. That's how il raise mine. My sister lives across the road from me, my aunties garden backs onto my next door neighbours, I've got 9 cousins in the village and 4 in the next village and 2 cousins in another village nearby. Hubby's mum lives up at the and works in the bakers so I see her every day, brother in law live 5 doors away, sister in laws one village up. All my friends live near and I've known them for years. Thir families Ard all here too. The house I grew up in was across the road from my head teacher and her son lived next door to her with his wife n kids.

CultureSucksDownWords · 28/09/2015 14:00

My DS started 3 days a week (7.30 till 4.30) when he was 11 months. On the first day he had 2 naps, just as long as he would have had at home, ate all his food and had a whale of a time. I was amazed as previously to this he had been fed to sleep for naps, and usually slept on me, or in the pram. He's always enjoyed nursery and hasn't ever been unsettled.

WhatstheT · 28/09/2015 14:03

sproketmx

Never said this to a poster before.

But you are a judgemental braggy so and so who needs to get a grip of the real world. Not everyone can live like you. Nor should everyone.

I only had my mum and dad, and my mum passed away when I was 18. I didn't go to nursery, and my mum worked at home to look after me, that's how I was raised, but that's not how I'm raising my DD. Not because I disagree with that upbringing, but because it doesn't suit our families life. And the way we do it is great for us, and my DD is a lovely happy little girl. Anyone who does it any other way will not get my judgement, unless they choose to judge me and many others as you have.

Put a huge in it, and a and learn to understand not everyone lives in your situation or world.

WhatstheT · 28/09/2015 14:05

I was amazed as previously to this he had been fed to sleep for naps, and usually slept on me, or in the pram. He's always enjoyed nursery and hasn't ever been unsettled.

Same here! DD ALWAYS fed to sleep and fussed and many times ended up in the pram or car seat. When I noticed she'd been having naps almost spot on 10am everyday I asked nursery how they did it. "Oh she looked tired and fussy so we popped her down in the cot or bouncer, she had a nap"

Excuse me?? It's that simple?? haha

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