Sorry for the spelling mistakes, I am slightly dyslexic and my phone like to auto correct the wrong spelling to make me appear even more so!
I don't really know how to Handle these comments I've been getting by a mum at the school.
So not to drip feed I will tell you the background for clarity. Sorry it's long winded
My dh works full time in a (to us) well paid job. We have always had low paying jobs so to us his new job is well paid with unlimited overtime that is double pay that he does occasionally here and there on average 12 hours a week on top of his full time job. He enjoys his job and he sees it as extra money for treats.
I have two buy to let properties and make a small amount of profit each month. So with that and my husbands wage we earn enough to pay our bills.
I also run a tiny business from home, it is more of a hobby and it really doesn't pay well at all. Just something to keep me busy.
Now there is a mum at the school we were at one point very close friends as our DCs were best friends. Her DH has left her they are now divorced and it was all very sad. She struggled to cope mentally as he up and left her one day for a younger OW. She had always been a kept woman as her DH is in a amazing job. She also used to run a small business from home that she enjoyed. On the outside they seemed very well off had a big house new cars nice things but there big house was funded by a interest only mortgage so all the income was going on nice things rather than into the house.
She didn't realize the seriousness of it all until she got a valuation of the house done as she couldn't afford the mortgage and bills. They were in negative equity and financially in trouble. So she had to quit her home business and is now in full time employment. She has now become a rather bitter person.
The friendship has died down a bit recently and I have distanced myself a bit due to nasty comments on FB about knowing who your friends are. This was aimed at me when she approached me about renting one of the buy to let's. She asked how much rent I was getting. Both of my properties I rent out quite cheaply as they were bought as do uppers. I have done them up myself not to a amazing standard but enough to rent out with the potential to fix them up as and when to a high standard and get a very high rent. At the moment there doing fine and I haven't got the money to do this. Both sets of tenants are great and until they give notice I have no plans to do this. This advice was given from the estate agent.
As the rent is quite low my friend asked if her and her DCs could move in. I basically said I already have great tenants and if the property became available I would let her know.
So the friendship has become a bit distant. However I see her everyday at school and we make conversation. Every single day without fail she will find a way of dropping into the conversation about me not working and nasty little digs at me.
Last week one morning I was yawning a bit due to sick dog keeping me awake most of the night so she said "well it doesn't matter as it's not like you do anything all day"
Another mum asked if I had any plans one day and I said a new shop had opened in relation to my business so I said I was gonna go and check it out and go for lunch with DH as he had a day off. She said " it's alright for some not having to work and being able to swan about all day"
It's honestly constant with these remarks and I find I'm getting embarrassed in front of the other mums. I was so upset this week it's getting to me so much that I'm finding myself looking for a job as I feel worthless. My DH is mad as we have spoken about this a lot and in order for me to work I will need a car as we live rural. And keeps reminding me what is the point as I will be on a low wage as I've never had a skilled job.
AIBU to tell her to fuck off?
How should I handle these comments?