To wonder why DC washing is "mine"?

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DP says this all the time.
"I need to wash my work stuff is there anything you need to wash for DS that you want to put in?"
Then either he wants me to get it or he'll ask me which specific peices of washing I "want" done for DS
He thinks he's being helpful. I think he's being a tosser. If I do a load of washing for DS I don't feel the need to mention it to do or ask his permission as if its his job.
He does the same thing packing the nursery bag "what do you want me to put in? Which spars top? Where is it?" You fucking know what goes in it, I'm not the fucking leader of spare tops ffs
I feel like a fucking manager or something
Gives me the rage

My DH would say the same, I just said he can decide (and stop bothering me. You've got a brain so use it!). If there was a specific outfit, or whatever, I'd specify. Although there were some strange outfits selected in the early days - tights used like trousers rather than underwear. He's better now, doesn't even ask how to switch on the washing machine either.

Yawn. Pathetic over the top feminiscm. Poor bloke.

...spelt it wrong, but it's Sat night.

these ex's...the ones who didnt pull their weight on the domestic front
what sort of home do they run when they live alone?

Mine cleverly avoided a feral existence by moving from my house back into, yes you guessed it, his mother's and from there into a house with new girlfriend. He's no dozer, he knows what hes at

DH has asked what to dress DD in when it's his turn to get her ready for the day. I just get a bit patronizing and talk to him like I would baby DD.

"Well... Let's see. We have pants, shirts, dresses, and socks. All of these are all very different pieces of clothing that could make very a lovely outfit when combined."

He catches on quick. Sometimes his outfit choices are a bit , but she's ready and dressed for the day. and yes, a few times he dressed her ridiculously just to be a smartass

yes my ex did this all the time when i refused to get the pajamas for him when he bathed one of the children he put him in thick fluffy pajamas it was the middle of summer i asked him how much he hated his own child he would put him in that shit in a fucking heatwave he claimed they were the only ones in the drawer and perhaps i should wash/dry/iron some more i pointed out he has a drawer full of summer pajamas and he got the winter ones from the charity bag because they were clearly too fucking small for him

like i said my EX

My DH dresses DD like he has chosen her clothes in the dark. I'm never sure if he has no idea what he is doing or does it on purpose to minimise the chance of being asked again.

Curly sue is correct.
These exs go to mummy or onto another woman where they miraculously begin to pull their weight and act like perfect boyfriend material.

yeah my ex is a lazy man child too

before he lived with me his mum did everything

when I got rid of him he just moved in with the next woman, then the next, and the next, etc

My DH has lazy manchild tendencies but largely controls them because he is basically a very nice person.

I do occasionally get the 'what shall I give DS for tea?/ do I need to put a vest on him?' type questions still but they are universally met with 'I don't know - you decide!' and are getting fewer and further between.

I think having to look after DS on his own one or two days every week now I've gone back to uni has helped with this, as has me resisting the urge to criticise and micromanage when he does things differently to me.

If he ever spoke to me the way you describe OP though, I'm not sure I could live with it.