Hi long time lurker so my first post. Will keep as brief as possible
About five years ago my cousin started working for my husband and through that we became friendly with him and his girlfriend. Very close we did Christmas and birthday presents and they enjoyed coming round to us as they lived with my aunt and uncle (cousins parents).
In the years that followed we helped them out quite a bit letting them house sit when we were away so they could have some space, they came away with us on holiday and only payed for flights as they were skint. We also gave them lots of Furniture we had in storage when they did move in together. None of this we minded as we thought of them as good friends and of course family.
Two years ago we had our little boy and this corn sides with cousin and girlfriend getting new jobs, her job was amazing really fantastic earning a lot of money. We soon began to feel we where not good enough for them any more.
Plans to do things always usually fell through, a couple of times they asked us to get them tickets for things and then they could not make it. Yet on facebook they were where out her new work friends. I always had to ask for the money for these tickets that where never used.
We gave them birthday and Christmas presents one year and never even got a card. Then suddenly a post on Facebook saying they were so happy to be getting rid of crappy furniture (that we gave them) and getting new. It was also put on Facebook that she was so happy to have new friends who "knew how to live the highlife and have a good time" she also put a comment in about "it's great not be tied down with kids and be able to do stuff"
So after all this we basically cut our loses but had to put up with them ignoring us at family dos and also aunt and uncle ignoring us. It them gets back to us that they said we cut them out and thats why aunt an uncle ignored us. Luckily rest of family did not believe them and know we would not do that.
Fast forward to now and cousins girlfriend is pregnant totally unplanned. She has now started texting me wanting to meet up, I texted back congratulations but ignored the meeting up part.
Then my mum gets a phone call from my aunty begging me to meet up with girlfriend as she does not know anyone with kids and none of her workfriends have kids and now she feels we would have more in common again. My mum incidentally says if I was to meet up with the little Madame then more fool me
DH is beginning to wane and say we should see them again as afterall she is pregnant, my opinion is no way I am not getting all friendly again just to be blown off when something better comes along
Sorry for the essay