To think this is damn weird (wedding related, I know everyone loves a wedding thread)

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My brother is getting married in a few weeks. He and his fiancée have paid for most of the wedding themselves.

They've invited my mum's cousin (she knows her from when they were young but we haven't met her). Apparently her son saw the invitation and asked if he could go (no).

Since then, the cousin has repeatedly asked if she could bring him. AIBU to find this a bit weird? My mum is now worrying that the cousin will turn up with her son despite being told no.

It is a formal sit down dinner etc not a buffet so it will be super embarrassing if he does turn up as there will be nowhere for him on the table setting.

Well, if she feels strongly, perhaps she won't come.

Personally i would always give the option of a +1. Especially if the guest is having to travel a long way, have an overnight stay, or doesn't know the rest of the guests.

However, if i received an invite and asked if i could bring a +1 and was told no; i would never be so rude as to bring the matter up again (and again!). I would suck it up or politely decline the invite.

Manners manners manners.

My sister asked me, once, if my niece (age 15) could bring her boyfriend to my wedding. I said not to the ceremony and sit-down meal because of space/budget limitations but he was very welcome to come to the evening reception. I thought that was reasonable. Clearly she didn't, because guess who turned up? rude fuckers

DH's mate phoned up the night before the wedding and asked if he could bring his new girlfriend (of a fortnight). DH said it was too late tbh but by all means tell her to come along to the evening bit. She, of course, turned up. She also had a spectacular hissy fit during the photographs and demanded to be taken home. DH's mate was very embarrassed indeed, took her home and never returned.

I also had a friend of mine ring up a week before the wedding and explain that his colleague (who I had never met) was going through a relationship breakdown (her husband had been cheating for several years iirc), was lonely and very fragile and could he bring her along? To a wedding. Where she knew nobody.

Well, if she feels strongly, perhaps she won't come

Well you started the thread in AIBU about your brother's wedding. Posters have tried to tell you why it is unreasonable to expect the cousin to attend alone.

Why on earth would your brother invite the cousin (who is not known to him or his fiancee) other than to be a companion to your own mother? And it appears that the mother hasn't seen her cousin since childhood. IMO your brother has been extremely unthinking. Offering an invitation to a family occasion that she would never expect to attend - and she has to attend alone. She just wants to have ONE person she knows to sit next to her. Is that so hard to understand?

At the end of the day, it is your brother's wedding so if he refuses the +1 then that his his prerogative.

Hi all, I know I said I'd update. It was lovely. The cousin didn't bring her son, she sat next to my Mum at the front of the church during the ceremony and next to her on the boat to the venue.

They didn't have a top table at the reception so the parents each hosted their own table and the bride and grown sat with the bridesmaids and ushers etc. The cousin sat next to my Mum at the table, along with a load of my parents' friends (who were all single at the wedding due to being widowed or divorced).

Everyone was delightful and we all got on well.

Sorry it isn't more juicy.

That's beautiful! So glad it went well, it does sound lovely. i really like the lack of a top table, more people should do that.