Visiting the office with new baba

[Prettyeyedpiratesmile]

I've sat in work and listened to the women in the office debate this ALL day and I want some mumsnet thoughts.....I will say from the outset that I'm kind of on the fence with this one. So here goes....

One of the girls finished up in April for Maternity leave (while I was still on Mat leave) and the girls really went all out for her. I was happy to contribute as they'd done the same for me a few months prior. Beautiful thoughtful gifts for her and baby and a lovely lunch for her. We're a friendly team and while we don't hang about out side work we often go for lunch and generally just have a good working relationship. The crux of the matter is that some of the women are PISSED off that she's not brought dd in to the office since she's had her. i brought my DS in and previous new mums have done the same. I'm not that bothered and thinks she wants a clean break but some people seem to feel a bit agrieved that they spent so much money and put time and effort into her leaving presents and do and she's not introduced us to the baby. Is this unreasonable?! I've been wondering this all day!

When I took ds into work, I had to use the managing partner's office for a nappy change. He peed on the carpet, just a little bit. Priceless. :-)

Haha I do the same atticus, most people are the same where I work, although I would be polite if someone specifically brought their baby over to me. It is awkward, though.

I waited til mine was about 5 months and not quite crawling. He had more of a little personality by that point!

I found bringing DS into work (everyone does it here) very stressful, had to breastfeed back of car before we walked to office, just as a I got him out he did another poo, had to change him in the back of car, then normally lovely chilled DS decided to scream his head off for most of the time he was in office.

For this reason, as well as the fact in our of team (of 30 mainly young women) its likely someone will be trying for a baby/possibly struggling with fertility etc. and not wanting babies shoved in their faces, when DC2 is born I definitely wont be bringing he/she into work. Your colleagues sound insane to me! If they are desperate to see the baby they should arrange to see her at home.

I used to laothe it when colleagues brought their babies in. I was single, wanted to stay that way, had no ticking clock, disliked babies. What was I meant to do? I was busy working. Everyone else was clustered round doing all the ooh and ah stuff, surely they didn't need me to as well?

When I had dd, I was self-employed. No one I worked with/for has ever met her or seen her.

I didn't know bringing babies in to work was a thing. I have two colleagues who've had babies not that long ago and neither one has brought them in to meet us. Just a few lousy photos now and then when I ask for them. I've been robbed!