To ask for help. I'm so overweight and I don't want to die

[Piratepete1]

I am massively overweight. BMI is about 42. I have been overweight for most of my life but have got much bigger after 2 babies, trouble conceiving, depressions etc.

Once again I have failed to make changes. This week I managed 1 gym visit and 3 days of healthy eating. Binged tonight on take away and huge amounts of chocolate as DH was working late.

I thought I would be able to do it for my children as I don't want to die and leave them. I want to run in the parents race instead of sitting there like a blob and letting my little ones down.

But I just can't do it. I am addicted to sugar and sweet things. I am an emotional eater. I eat when happy and when sad. Binge eating is now so ingrained I don't think I can ever change. I tried the Why Weight programme during and after pregnancy but failed and gave up. Tried all the slimming groups. Think it's surgery next but again I'm scared of dying from it.

What on earth shall I do

[RyanORiley]

Good luck.

Something that helped me was deliberately finding another source of emotional comfort when alone. Things I can do instead of eat. These work for me:
*Warm bath
*Cuddle a soft toy
*Watch some funny/cute youtube videos. Silly kittens are a life saver.
*Phone DH/a close friend

I think a lot of emotional eating when alone is unsurprising. When a baby cries, people often pick it up and feed it. It isn't always hungry, it might be cold, lonely,s cared, but it gets fed, so it starts to see food as the cure for every crisis, even though it isn't. Just find something else that does work, that does make you feel even a tiny bit better.

[viciousknid]

[FluffyMcnuffy]

Also popcorn is your friend (obviously not butterkist toffee), it's like crisps but much less calories and quite filling.

Shop online if you can, it will stop you buying "on offer" pizzas and junk.

[KeyserSophie]

something just popped up on my FB newsfeed that looked like it might be helpful.

It's called //www.stopfightingfood.com by someone called Isabel Foxen Duke.

I watched the intro video and it seems quite sensible- it's free so no downside (unless it contains subliminal messages about Satanism )

[Shockers]

Re the takeaways OP, I've started buying the M&S stir fry meal deal (£6 for 2, but I add extra tender stem broccoli and it easily feeds 3). It's quicker than going for a takeaway, a third of it comes in at 340 kcals and it's tasty. Last night we had chicken, Singapore noodles, mushroom/veg and the soy/chilli/ ginger sauce; it was lovely.

[CatThiefKeith]

I second Waxy's suggestion of Easyloss Virtual Gastric Band. Really good. I listen to Bikini Body, but it is by the same people.

[BeautyQueenFromMars]

OP, I just wanted to say I'm in EXACTLY the same position as you. I made an appointment yesterday with the gp (first available appt mid October ) to ask for help with weight loss. I know what I need to do, I just can't seem to do it. And I've no-one to do it with as DH is slim and fit, and I've no friends.
I'm an emotional and comfort eater too, and struggle to exercise on my own.
Feel free to PM me - maybe we can support and help each other. I can pass on whatever advice the gp gives me too, if you like.