to think having a DD who likes dinosaurs or a DS who likes princesses is not something to be 'proud' of?

[MaltaVestrit]

ok, it is slightly FB related.

A friend (someone I used to know but don't see face to face now) has just posted 'so proud that all DDs birthday presents have come from the boys aisle' and it has really pissed me off, for several reasons:

1. I hate this competitive anti gender stereotyping crap
2. surely by calling it the 'boys aisle' you are shooting your own argument in the foot - assuming the point you are trying to make is that there shouldn't be 'boys' and 'girls' toys.

but mainly - what is there to be 'proud' of? Should I be less proud of my DD because she likes dolls? or of my DS because he likes tractors and dinosaurs?

Don't get me wrong, I am proud of my DC for many reasons but how the hell can you be 'proud' that they like a certain type of toy?! Be proud that your DD can list several types of dinosaur by all means, be proud that your DS has just passed his ballet exams - but to just be proud that they are interested in those things in the first place? ODFOD!!

So AIBU to think this is not something to be 'proud' of?

(yes I know IABU to get this annoyed about something on FB, but its not the first like this I've seen)

In comparison to Disney princess dolls, barbie's shape is positively healthy and normal.

Yanbu. I hate the anti gender stereotyping pov even more than I hate the gender stereotyping one.

Yanbu, this type of crap is posted on here all the time. All the look at me I'm sooo cool posters. Just do what you want, nobody cares.

Yanbu, I have friends, mainly the chid-free ones, who have said disparaging things about the things my dd loves within her hearing and think they are being terribly right on. Makes me very angry. How dare they tell my little girl that her choice of toy is wrong? I have never seen anyone rolling their eyes that a little boy is playing with cars and trains.

it should be all about choice and balance shouldn't it? by all means have preferences but not to the exclusion of all else and do not think you are somehow superior because of it.

I also have a MIL who only brings things she deems appropriate for the DC regardless of their preferences. hence a lot of very 'arty' gifts that they never play with and loads of 'boden-esque' clothes which they wont wear (if it doesn't have a character on, they aren't interested!!) so frustrating at her lack of respect for their choices.