Is she cheating

[ton181]

Hi All, I would like your opinion. I had a feeling all was not right in our relationship so I snooped on her tablet and read some personal messages on her facebook and discovered she had been talking to her ex fiancé over a period of 5 years. They had met for a coffee at least once and planned to meet again which didn't appear to have happened; these messages stopped in 2010, but I only just found them. I challenged her with my discovery, she was annoyed I had read them and said there was nothing going on and she was only curious. I said previous GF had messaged me but I had ignored them. She said she hasn't cheated and never would. I later discovered she deleted messenger from her tablet so I couldnt check it any further; now is she hiding something? When I asked she said it was because she didn't like me reading her personal messages and she was making a point. Obviously I'm not happy, your thoughts. We have been together for 13 years...

Fucking hell, sorry to hear the update.

best of luck ton

Mate, you have serious trust issues. Do you really believe she has been unfaithful, if so then there is little more in that relationship left unless YOU can move forward. Have you tried any sort of counseling, if not then time to go open hearted and truthfully express your concerns.

Me and my partner have been together for over 15 years and the brown smelly stuff has hit the spiny white thing many times. But there is a few thing I have never worried about and that is faithfulness and honesty. It has never occurred to me to ask or to even think something might of happened because we both made it clear from the start we would be honest about our relationship or the end of such.

It saddens me that you are worried about the honesty of your lady. If you cannot trust her then you are going to lose her. Is there something you are hiding from her, why would you search her private communications. You have messed up but now you have the opportunity to sit and TALK. If you start to row then you have to get up and leave the room explaining you are worried and have to leave so not to upset her.

Good luck, be honest and most of all stay calm.

Oh! and STOP READING HER PRIVATE COMMUNICATIONS!

Read the thread.

Shit. Hope DNA tests come back proving the children are yours.

Well the quickest edit in the history of edits. I have just read Hawkmoths reply and so then read your update. I am sorry to hear that you have been cheated on. Forget about DNA if it is going to change how you feel about one of YOUR kids. They know you as Daddy and that is all that matters to little people, not what silly adults do to each other.

Stay strong, try not to tarnish your next relationship with the fruits of this one. Good luck and a big man hug coming your way.

So sorry your instincts were correct all this time

Not really the point but...

If your partner is at work (at weekend or not) you're not a single parent, you're a parent.

People who are single, and are parents, are single parents.

I know this is a minor detail in the grand scheme of things but the way this was worded made me really uncomfortable.