to think if the sex of a child is not determinable you don't just guess?

[MummaV]

At a wedding on Saturday with DD (in a pink dress in her purple pram) and 3 separate people referred to her as "little man" or "cute little fella" despite being told her evidently feminine name and seeing her dress. Granted the first person didn't see her dress as she was asleep under a blanket but he is a friend who sees pictures of her and comments on Facebook frequently.

I understand some babies wearing unisex clothes without any obvious markers it can sometimes be difficult to tell, at which point you just don't mention he/she etc surely? You dont just assume all babies are male/female?

I don't think DD looks particularly male but as a baby with little hair she doesn't look overly feminine either.

This has happened quite a few times, with usually men, assuming DD is a boy.

AIBU to think that if you aren't sure you dont comment? And to be a little paranoid that DD evidently looks like a boy even in a pink dress??

My then 15mth dd got called a 'tough looking chap' 8 yrs on and I still chuckle at that one.

I got this with DD too.

However at the grand old age of 5 she decided she wanted short hair. It's quite funny now to watch people work out which gender she is when she goes out with pink shoes, blue jeans, Star Wars Chewbacca hoodie and her short hair.

YABU. Does it matter? Is the baby's feeling hurt? I can't for the life if me think why a mum would be upset about this but maybe I'm missing something.

I am a MOG but couldn't give a tiny shite Narp. I did notice a massive proliferation of bows, flowers, headbands and such nonsense at baby groups among the MOBG (mothers of bald girls). I had a very hairy DD even her ears and back so didn't have the temptation to hot glue sparkles to her cranium.

Spartan she said it's excused when it's a baby because babies 'don't understand' (and hence can't be offended).

Oh dear, so why the comparisopn then? If the baby isn't bothered why compare it to a situation where the person would be offended.

Quite frankly if someone accidentally called me a man I'd be pretty offended - it's hardly a compliment. If someone called my DH a woman I can assure you he'd be offended.

Ah well, if both you and your dh would be offended, then everyone would too. I have several friends of indeterminate sex. I know they are female, none mind when they get 'he' they know what thy look like, they know when they have a short back and sides hair cut they are likely to get labelled 'he' .

And also some people just aren't that sensitive.