Disappointed those are interesting links but I think both articles are working from a false premise. The appear to be assuming that you can only have well behaved children if you treat them as little robots, only providing instructions and never engaging with them. Furthermore that this parenting style never wavers until adulthood.
Who parents like that? Who advocates parenting like that?
My children are very well behaved and as I said up thread I expect them to do what they are told first time. That does not mean there isn't room for discussion, debate, explanation or negotiation.
It's far more sophisticated than that.
My children are well behaved but they aren't terrified little robots or compliant little nonentities. They are lively, bright, enquiring little people. They 'test boundaries' every day, but they don't need to scream, kick, hit or disobey in order to do it.
In the example the OP gave of not coming in from playing, my children might well try to negotiate (politely) for extra time. They might be successful if their arguments were reasonable and nicely put.
If their request was declined, they'd be given a clear (and polite) explanation of why not and a clear indication that further argument would be fruitless.
As they get older we'll obviously adjust our parenting accordingly and they'll have more independence and responsibility for their own decision making.
I really, really hate this idea that the only choice your have is terrified, compliant, robot with mean, drill sergeant parents or spirited, 'testing', characters with hand wringing parents.
It does both parents and children a disservice.