to tell her to jog on? naming day

[bettyberry]

Just received an invite to a naming ceremony.

Its a non-religious thing and is mostly people giving speeches and dedications to the children (Part of me is thinking of the scene in sleeping beauty where the fairies bestow gifts on the baby)

There is a dress code, a gift list (no deviating!) and strict instructions not to drink alcohol even though the venue has a bar.

There will be no food provided for the 'party' just snacks (crisps, nuts etc) or drinks apart from soda.

It is 3 hours long, early evening, right around dinner time.

The children haven't changed names, no blended family, marriage or ensuring DCs have the same surname etc (I'd still be a bit for these but understand the value of celebrating a 'new' family set up) parents have been together 10+years.

The children are 5 and 8.

To me it all feels a bit grabby (the specific gift list) and that the host (the DCs mother) is feeling a bit put out both her sisters have had babies recently and no one is interested in her spoilt children.

Please tell me I'm not going barmy and this really is just a 'look at me, I'm here! Look at me!' thing.

I think you should go and take traditional gifts like a silver rattle.

perhaps my DSIL is that attention seeking after all...

ok just rewind a minute..... did you say she had already had them christened when they were babies or have I made that up? if so then Yup its a rather genius way to get Santa's presents in stock Hmm... wonder if my 23 and 18 yr old will be up for a party

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes no, not christened. No intention of having them christened! I remember her talking about a naming ceremony years ago but it never materialised.

Yanbu.

Very weird especially as no one being named, also the lack of food whilst demanding gifts.

Only straw I was clutching at was , is there an alcoholic relative or similar which might explain why they have said no one is to drink alcohol?

You do realise that now you have to go simply to report back.

What if everyone invited turns it down? How pissed off will she be then?
As this is your sister what do your parents think? Can you get them or another 'more senior' family member to tell her she is being fucking ridiculous if you feel you can't? There has to be a grumpy old aunty out there who would do it.

There has to be a grumpy old aunty out there who would do it.

What the hell, give me her number and I'll do it! :o

I want to be your plus one OP.

Pipbin and WankerDeAsalWipe I have just done it myself. On FB. Publicly so no one can twist my words or accuse me of anything other than what I have actually written.

I may report back later with serious family drama. If not my sister did it and this is the proof

My oh my, I feel there's going to be some drama now

Did you include a link to this thread in your FB post? (Hopeful)

RaspberryOverload post has been up less than half an hour. A relative has TAGGED all my family members into the post on the comments bit

please come back with updates op........

All in seeriousness I hope this doesn't turn into a shit storm for you, it's hard when family can be completely impossible

Oooooh exciting!

Has no-one else said anything? I know you won't want to paste in what you said, but can you give us the gist?

no rage They'd have my username then and how would I rant and share all the other family daftness?

Any do you think they tagged?

Sorry, why*

Ah ok, I made it up, still sounds like an early Santa though

Tagged because they want to make sure everyone sees it, I bet.

This sounds great. I can't wait to see what she says. Any chance you can tell us what you said on FB?

Oooh, what did you say OP?

I think you should get your OH to propose at the party.

I think you should get your OH to propose at the party

Yes! Please please do this... Presuming you're still invited after slagging her party off in public...

I think you should get your OH to propose at the party

Yes, with all your mates doing a flash mob thing. Filmed.