To be cross with DH
Chippednailvarnish · 10/09/2015 13:31
I'm in hospital as a day patient, nothing serious but I've had to have a general so I can't do much.
"D" H has been pretty uninterested. He decided to go to work this morning, even though he said he would work from home which means I have had to drive myself in and spend the day alone. He's just called and said he's going to walk over to see me. Except I'm in a completely different hospital, which he has clearly overlooked. AIBU to feel neglected and frankly fucked off with his total disinterest?
catzpyjamas · 10/09/2015 13:38
Oh sweetheart, I had a GA a week ago and I'm still not right. DH was rubbish until he came to pick me up and a nurse told him what support I would need. He has honestly been great and I usually do everything round here. Get your discharge nurse to speak to him.
Feel better soon
Chippednailvarnish · 10/09/2015 13:47
He's not selfish as such, he just needs things explaining to him in words of one extra short syllable.
He's going to have to get my parents to give him a lift here. And God love them. But my parents can turn any minor medical procedure in to a drama of epic proportions
catzpyjamas · 10/09/2015 13:52
Mine too but my nurse was very patient with him . Hope he sorts himself out! My DH has been really good and it has had the added benefit of making him realise exactly just how much I do every day.
Take any help offered and do nothing that you don't need to.
TheBunnyOfDoom · 10/09/2015 13:55
I think a grown adult shouldn't need it spelling out that when someone is in hospital for an operation, they will need to be looked after.
Still, you know him better than we do - maybe he was just worried and didn't want to show it. I hope you feel better.
Topseyt · 10/09/2015 14:07
What a dolt he sounds. Why didn't he drive you to the hospital this morning. He should have realised that you would be unable to drive after the procedure, and it would have made much more sense for him to have the car, especially as he needed to pick the kids up later.
He is an arse. Speak to your discharge nurse if you get the chance before he arrives to take you home. Ask if she will drum into him how much you need looking after for now.
I agree that he must be in charge of everything tonight as already suggested above. I would say also for the next few days.
catzpyjamas · 10/09/2015 16:59
Please speak to the ward staff before he comes and ask them to tell him what you will need for the next few days. I think he needs to hear this from someone else.
I honestly didn't realise how bad I'd feel after surgery. I have been totally honest and just said "Sorry, you're just going to have to deal with that" for anything I wasn't up to.
Mind you, you could always ask to be kept in...
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