To be cross with DH

[Chippednailvarnish]

I'm in hospital as a day patient, nothing serious but I've had to have a general so I can't do much.
"D" H has been pretty uninterested. He decided to go to work this morning, even though he said he would work from home which means I have had to drive myself in and spend the day alone. He's just called and said he's going to walk over to see me. Except I'm in a completely different hospital, which he has clearly overlooked. AIBU to feel neglected and frankly fucked off with his total disinterest?

[Namechangenell]

Samosa - that is awful. Please don't put yourself through that again!

[TPel]

Samosa that is truly shocking. I am speechless.

[catzpyjamas]

How are you feeling this morning. Chipped? Hope you're being well looked after.

[Chippednailvarnish]

I'm dosed up on co-codamol, we've hardly said a word, but he has said he'd get dinner ready using the slow cooker.
That will be interesting...

[catzpyjamas]

Have a takeaway menu and his credit card to hand

[TheBunnyOfDoom]

Why is he barely speaking to you?

He needs to step up.

[Chippednailvarnish]

Because he's in the doghouse and I've made it quite clear that I'm pissed off at him.

[TheBunnyOfDoom]

Ah, so he's sulking then!

[Chippednailvarnish]

Well, more a sheepish sort of teenage moping...

[QueenArnica]

Firstly have some , hope you're feeling ok.

I'm a week on from a radical hysterectomy and lymphectomy following a cervical cancer diagnosis. My dh has been incredible, he has stopped work for 2 weeks purely to look after me and the dc. He had changed catheters, held me when I've cried, fed me, washed my nighties and given me an enema!

I'm sorry your dh is being such a twunt at a time when you feel sore and vulnerable. Silent treatment and clipped tones aren't going to work, tell him how you feel and why. Lots of love and gentle hugs xxx

[Chippednailvarnish]

I hope you recover soon Queen.

I'm now watching DH cook nearly a kilo of rice for dinner...

[Topseyt]

I would bet that most of these DHs who behave so badly when their wives are ill or in hospital would expect to be waited on hand and foot if it were them. They would milk it for all it was worth.

My DH has never been too bad whenever I have been ill, which hasn't been too often, but has happened. He tries to get me to rest, which is no mean feat in itself, and will make cups of tea/coffee as required. OK, the kids were fed sandwiches for every meal, with the occasional takeaway, but he did it, and everyone survived.

The last time I needed a hospital procedure he was there to drive. He isn't a cook, but did buy a pub lunch on the way home which was nice.

Some of these others do need to pull themselves together and at least try.

[Topseyt]

OP, sorry, how rude of me. I do hope you are improving now.

A kilo if rice!! Is that dinner for a week?

[Chippednailvarnish]

Thanks Top
I've been ill before and he's been great, which is probably why I'm so annoyed.

He isn't generally a manchild either, he's very hands on. He gets the DCs up and takes them to school when I'm working, ferries them around to their activities and isn't a stranger to hardwork!

[Topseyt]

It may be just a blip then, hence why he seemed sheepish before.

Perhaps he knew he had cocked up.