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To be annoyed by friend changing DS's name?

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Booboostwo · 07/09/2015 09:54

DS (1yo) has a name with a popular short version so we call him by the short version, let's say Chris. A friend assumed Chris comes from Christian and called him that, so I politely said "Christian is a lovely name but actually DS is called Christopher".

I thought that was the end of that, but the friend has spent the last year calling DS Christian. I have told him I don't like it, he won't stop, I have asked him how would he like it if I called his kid by another name and he said that was a wonderful idea, etc.

Yesterday was DS's birthday party. As we sung happy birthday the friend shouted 'Christian' over the whole group. He also went to another mum who did not know the origin of DS's name and told her a whole story about how we chose Christian because of a film, complete with quotes.

I am about to shout at this guy next time he does this and have asked DH to talk to him first as he is primarily his friend and he may get through to him. DH says he doesn't see the outrage, I am exaggerating and should let it go.

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Jackie0 · 07/09/2015 09:55

The friend is being a dick

TheHouseOnTheLane · 07/09/2015 09:56

He's not a friend...he's a weirdo and unkind. Stop having anything to do with him and tell him why.

abbieanders · 07/09/2015 09:57

What a weirdo. Doesn't seem worth your while thinking about it, though. I'd be very surprised if he isn't doing it to get on your nerves.

TenForward82 · 07/09/2015 09:57

What a psycho.

TanteRose · 07/09/2015 09:58

Who ARE these people??

Get your DH to deal with it in no uncertain terms

Whereyourtreasureis · 07/09/2015 09:58

'Friend' is a wanker. YANBU in the slightest

Mulligrubs · 07/09/2015 09:59

Your "friend" sounds like a creepy psycho.

LoveChickens · 07/09/2015 09:59

Weirdo!

Cluesue · 07/09/2015 10:00

He's not a friend,he's a knob!!

MaisieDotes · 07/09/2015 10:01

He sounds like an asshole. Sorry.

He's realised it annoys you and is doing it to get a rise out of you. Ignore him, and if you can't ignore him go down the PA route of "oh bless... are you still confused about Chris's name? (Snigger) I expect you'll get it eventually (pat his arm while suppressing a smile).

Don't shout at him, as he is getting off on you losing your cool. Is be inclined to drop him as a fried tbh.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 07/09/2015 10:02

"Friend" is a fucking weirdo. Cease seeing him forthwith.

I have a friend with a DD who was in a similar situation at nursery - but once the nursery staff were apprised of the fact that the long version they'd used was incorrect, they made sure they used the correct one in future, as most normal people would.

Sparkletastic · 07/09/2015 10:02

He's deliberately trying to piss you off. I wouldn't have him around as he sounds like a dick but if you can't lose him then loudly confront his behaviour next time.

RumAppleGinger · 07/09/2015 10:02

What a prick. Give DH a chance to speak to him. If he continues to be a prick stop inviting him to stuff and let him know why.

BathshebaDarkstone · 07/09/2015 10:03

Does the friend still think that your DS's name is Christian? My SIL still gets DS's name wrong, we've let it drop as it's a genuine mistake and she'll forget anyway.

Wineandrosesagain · 07/09/2015 10:03

He's doing it to wind you up, and it's working. Twat. I would definitely blow up at him - tell him it isn't a joke, you know he is doing it to annoy you and if he doesn't stop then he is no longer welcome in your home or to family events. He will make out that you have no sense of humour, can't take a joke blah blah blah - but i think he actually doesn't really like you - why else would he wind you up for an entire year?

Finola1step · 07/09/2015 10:03

Very odd. Is he the type who likes to think that he is a witty fella when in fact he is simply a wind up merchant? If so, then he does it because he enjoys watching your reaction. cut him out.

annielouise · 07/09/2015 10:06

He's an arsehole. Honestly, dump the friend if he can't respect you. He's on a power trip with you.

InimitableJeeves · 07/09/2015 10:07

He's clearly trying to wind you up. I think MaisieDotes' response is the best one for him.

molyholy · 07/09/2015 10:08

What a wind up merchant! Not funny though, but he can see it pisses you off. What a prick.

Helpmeoutofthemaze · 07/09/2015 10:09

You don't need this twatty friend.

corlette · 07/09/2015 10:09

When it's his birthday, shout 'knobhead' over everyone else singing his name.
See how he likes it.

MerryMarigold · 07/09/2015 10:09

singing over his real name at a birthday? What? Even a 1yo knows their name and would be wondering why is someone singing another name? Is it someone else's birthday too? Just so confusing. He needs to think about the child before he makes another one of his 'funny' 'jokes', designed only to irritate.

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Booboostwo · 07/09/2015 10:10

He 100% knows DS's correct name and is doing this on purpose. We do have different views on life, e.g. he is an anti-vaccer, conspiracy theorist, cure yourself with homeopathy because doctors are trying to kill you kind of person and I am not but I only know these beliefs of his from FB we don't discuss them in person.

I also don't particularly like alcohol so haven't drunk any in the last 4 years when I have been either pregnant or breastfeeding (I know you can drink small amounts when bf but I just don't like the taste) and he is very pushy about getting me to drink wine. E.g. Have some wine. No thank you I am bf and not keen on alcohol. But this is an amazing wine, when you drink it you will change your mind. I am sure it is great, but I really do not like wine, especially the tannins that make good wine good. Take a sip, here I've put jut a little in this glass....

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 07/09/2015 10:11

Yep he's a goady wieirdo. You can't win with people like that. Tell him to take his goady weirdo ways elsewhere because you can't be arsed with people who are so desperate for attention.

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