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This isn't junk food

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MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 12:08

About 10.30 Thursday night my Dsis asked me to babysit 3DNs who are under the age of 4. She said she had to work, usually she only works Monday to Wednesday with the kids at the CM. So I said yes. I needed to call my boss Friday morning to get emergency annual leave.

She dropped them off at 7.30am and said they needed breakfast. I don't have kids and as it was short notice I didn't have time to go buy specific food for the kids I fed them what I had in. So this is what they had:

Breakfast - toast, cornflakes, banana, milk
Snack - chopped apple, plain yogurt
Lunch - wholemeal bread beans on toast, carrot sticks on the side, handful of raisins
Snack - carrot + celery sticks, hummus
Dinner - homemade pizza using shop bought wholemeal bases, tomato, vegetables, chicken, cheese, bowl of frozen yogurt.

My Dsis picked up the kids at 6.30pm. Everything seemed fine. I got a text from her saying I was a shit auntie, I fed the kids shit junk food all day, that she won't be letting me babysit again etc.Confused I tried to call her be she won't answer.

I don't have kids and I couldnt get to the shops (no car seats, its a good 30 minute walk) so i think what I gave the kids was decent. I ate it too. Sure beans on toast isn't great but its not shit ffs. Is it? Was I unreasonable? TIA

OP posts:

OwlinaTree · 05/09/2015 12:10

Eh? This was a favour you did her?


Googlers123 · 05/09/2015 12:11

What a reaction from her! She was being totally unreasonable and quite nasty, and I think the food you gave them was very healthy especially considering you don't have children yourself.


laffymeal · 05/09/2015 12:11

Unless this is a stealth boast about what a fabulous lunch you made them the problem is either

  1. Your nephews have misled your DSis about what you fed them

2. Your DSis is an ungrateful deluded old boot

DoreenLethal · 05/09/2015 12:11

You took emergency leave so that she could work, and she repays you by telling you that you can't have them again?

I think I'd have told her to fuck right off to be honest. That food is not junk at all as you know - and she is extremely rude for her attitude.


Trills · 05/09/2015 12:12

There is no universally-accepted definition of "junk food". It's all subjective.

Someone asks you to look after 3 children all day on 9 hours notice should not complain even if they only ate McDonalds and sweeties.


Googlers123 · 05/09/2015 12:12

And you took the day off work so you could have her kids, so she could go to work??


DevonFolk · 05/09/2015 12:12

I'd be sending my child to you more often if you were my sister. There must have been a misunderstanding somewhere along the way.


confusedalways · 05/09/2015 12:14

Obviously that's all healthy stuff, but I bet the kids were asked and said they had beans on toast for lunch and pizza and ice cream for dinner. Which doesn't sound as good that way. If you get a chance to explain what they actually had I'm sure she'd understand.


HunterHearstHelmsley · 05/09/2015 12:14

Tell her to pass off. It's all fine, even if it wasn't you did her a huge favour. She could have supplied food.


dontrunwithscissors · 05/09/2015 12:14

Could your DN's have made something up? I would be proud of my kids are all that! Did they complain about it at all?

Even if this is the explanation, your Dsis reaction is hugely U.


TimeToMuskUp · 05/09/2015 12:15

Wow, she sounds like a huge berk, and you should remind her that next time she needs an emergency babysitter she can bugger off.


stardusty5 · 05/09/2015 12:15

YANBU. You did her a massive favour, and there is nothing whatsoever wrong with that food. If she is that precious about what they eat she should have provided the food herself.


Googlers123 · 05/09/2015 12:16

I just can't believe she would call you a shit auntie no matter what you fed them. That's just so mean and selfish when you did her a favour. I don't know anyone who would say something like that, it's so out of order.


XCChamps · 05/09/2015 12:17

This can't be true. Not least because if you don't have kids, why on earth would wholemeal pizza bases be something you have in? Grin


TimeToMuskUp · 05/09/2015 12:18

Confused surely even if they did say "we ate beans on toast and pizza" you'd just be thankful that they'd been fed, and that your sister had helped out in an emergency? I think parents who ask huge favours then pick fault are massively out of order.


fabuLou · 05/09/2015 12:19

She sounds a right charmer. Ungrateful moo. The food sounds great and even if you had fed them junkl all day, she should be grateful.


CheesecakeDreams · 05/09/2015 12:20

Have you text what you fed them? The children may be saying they had something they didn't?


ScribbleScrabble · 05/09/2015 12:22

Didn't we have this thread a bit ago? Yabu to post asking for reassurance as obviously this healthy and I'm not sure why you are giving it headspace!


fabuLou · 05/09/2015 12:22

I think what you fed them is irrelevant. You took a day off work so the moo could work, you looked after 3 very small children, she should be v grateful. Here have these Thanks My 4 will be over in half an hour, feed them what you like and stick in front of the tv, Ta. Tell ds everyones fed no one dead. Hmm


NotMeNotYouNotAnyone · 05/09/2015 12:25


Even if you had just given them junk, you were doing her a favour!

Have you sent her the breakdown? The kids probably just said pizza. I wouldn't normal send a list of what is fed kids but she's the one making it an issue not you.

I take brownies on pack holiday and they get far less healthy food! And the parents send them with bags of sweets and other junk too.


SurlyCue · 05/09/2015 12:28

Well shes an idiot to take the word of an under 4 year old for starters but even if you had fed them crap then she should still be kissing your bloody feet for saving her ass in work! It cost you a days annual leave FFS!


Jackie0 · 05/09/2015 12:29

I would have replied HaHa because it so obviously has to be a joke ?!?!
If its not a joke she's clearly bonkers


scatterthenuns · 05/09/2015 12:31

She's heard pizza and gone off on one. What a nutter. Text her what you fed them, and tell her she's deluded, ungrateful, and that she can think again about asking for any more favours of any kind.

Then ignore her contact for a while.


Pico2 · 05/09/2015 12:32

Surely this a joke.


Sighing · 05/09/2015 12:35

Don't bother pointing out to her that the food was a reasonable mix (especially at short notice).
Tell her you're not a shit auntie. The children were safe, fed and happy ALL day, despite arriving unfed and without food. As she clearly was unimpressed you wont be expecting her to ask you to take leave from work again. Should you do that. Invoice her, per hour, per child. I really can't believe a parent could be so slack as to dump their kids on someone, for free making them take time off work. The situation was not an emergency, was it? She chose to go to work to presumably further her own career. Why not their dad? Why all day? Ludicrous.

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