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AIBU?

This isn't junk food

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MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 12:08

About 10.30 Thursday night my Dsis asked me to babysit 3DNs who are under the age of 4. She said she had to work, usually she only works Monday to Wednesday with the kids at the CM. So I said yes. I needed to call my boss Friday morning to get emergency annual leave.

She dropped them off at 7.30am and said they needed breakfast. I don't have kids and as it was short notice I didn't have time to go buy specific food for the kids I fed them what I had in. So this is what they had:

Breakfast - toast, cornflakes, banana, milk
Snack - chopped apple, plain yogurt
Lunch - wholemeal bread beans on toast, carrot sticks on the side, handful of raisins
Snack - carrot + celery sticks, hummus
Dinner - homemade pizza using shop bought wholemeal bases, tomato, vegetables, chicken, cheese, bowl of frozen yogurt.

My Dsis picked up the kids at 6.30pm. Everything seemed fine. I got a text from her saying I was a shit auntie, I fed the kids shit junk food all day, that she won't be letting me babysit again etc. I tried to call her be she won't answer.

I don't have kids and I couldnt get to the shops (no car seats, its a good 30 minute walk) so i think what I gave the kids was decent. I ate it too. Sure beans on toast isn't great but its not shit ffs. Is it? Was I unreasonable? TIA

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campervan67 · 05/09/2015 12:35

Is she normally a bit of a food fascist? That's all I can think, if she asked the kids what they had and they said pizza and icecream. But even if that is the case, she has no reason to complain! What you fed them was great. If she's that bothered about what they eat she should have sent them.with a packed lunch.

I would be sending her a message saying you fed them perfectly healthy food, and if she asked you rather than the kids she would know. And that it's the last time you ever babysit for her. And then ignore her.

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ouryve · 05/09/2015 12:36

Well, if that's her attitude, that let's you off the hook as a free babysitter in the future. Talk about ungrateful.

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MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 12:36

DH and I are TTC so are trying to eat healthy. I love my DN so was happy to look after them as it was an emergency. I tried to call twice last night and texted her. Her response was don't call me I don't want to discuss it. She also said it was lucky i don't have kids because I would fuck them up! I told DSis what they had to eat when she picked them up and she saw the packaging in my kitchen, it looked like a bomb went off. Christ looking after kids is knackering. She is super picky about what the kids eat. My DM and DDad aren't allowed to buy them treats.

I have just spoke to my DM. Apparently I have made DSis feel like a shit mum, as she wasn't actually at work. She wanted a day to herself and the fact I was able to look after them made her feel bad for lying. She had expected me to phone DM for help and because I didn't she isn't happy.

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amazonqueen · 05/09/2015 12:36

Hopefully this is just a misunderstanding based on what the children have said they ate and your Dsis can be corrected when you speak to her. I am in awe of your food cupboard though. If I was a single person caught on the hop I would probably have bread, milk , cheese ,possibly peanut butter crisps,chocolate,cake and then some ready meals in the freezer.

But what a sad state of affairs when the first response is to call you names via a text.If this was my sister I would want to know what else is going on in her life ( unless this is her standard way of speaking to helpful others). Surely this is not the response of a reasonable person.

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Icouldbesogoodforyou · 05/09/2015 12:38

Really?

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MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 12:39

Its not fake at all. My Bil is overseas for work. Don't want to say where.

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specialsubject · 05/09/2015 12:39

email her the list, tell her to find her own emergency babysitter in future and that you CBA with her until you get an apology.

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BoffinMum · 05/09/2015 12:39

I think your DSis has utterly lost the plot. Let her pay for a babysitter next time!!

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Inertia · 05/09/2015 12:41

Whaaat?

So you had to take a day of emergency leave from work as she fancied a day to herself - from 7.30 am without feeding the children? And she complained about the food you gave them with no notice ? And it's YOUR fault that SHE lied?

Something else must be afoot here- your sister's actions are totally irrational.

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LittleLionMansMummy · 05/09/2015 12:43

Weird.

Baked beans are classed as a super food - lots of nutrition in them. Sounds to me like a really balanced and nutritious day's food. Surely this is a joke or a misunderstanding?

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goawayalready · 05/09/2015 12:44

will this be out on kindle?

just in case its real she is nuts yanbu

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MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 12:45

We don't keep treats in the house Monday to Friday so we are not tempted. DH and I are going to TGIs tonite as our weekly treat.

DH has lost 3 stones in the last 2 years so I am happy to not keep crap in the house.

I am not a troll I had to nc after the attack but have been on MN for a while.

Dsis has now posted on Facebook that someone thinks she is a shit mum. She didn't name me so is getting lots of are you ok posts.

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LittleLionMansMummy · 05/09/2015 12:46

Oh yeah and if my sister had done me a favour like this she could feed ds McDs, sweets and chocolate for all I would care.

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Misnomer · 05/09/2015 12:46

What??!!! Why couldn't she just not work that day? It makes no sense for you to take the day off so she could work and for her to be so ungratefuly at the end of it She's being an arse.

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AdoraBell · 05/09/2015 12:48

Do what Specialsubject said, and point out to your DM that it wasn't you who lied about needing emergency childcare.

I can appreciate she may have felt desperate for some child free time but she went about it the wrong way and is covering her embarrassment by making it your fault. It isn’t your fault.

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Fyaral · 05/09/2015 12:49

Sounds bizarre. Is she having a breakdown?

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MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 12:50

Dsis and I have had problems in the past. We are close in age so she thinks we are in competition. DH and I have had several mc so her having children has always been a huge point score at least in her mind.

Ive texted her and essentially told her to fuck off. I just hope this won't mean I can't see my Dns anymore. Fuck

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TheSpottedZebra · 05/09/2015 12:53

How could you take emergency leave for your DNs?

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Mistigri · 05/09/2015 12:56

What they ate is irrelevant.

I'd send her a text saying that's fine you won't babysit again and that a bill for a day's childcare is in the post (I wouldn't actually send a bill but it would be my polite way of letting her know that she was out of order).

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scatterthenuns · 05/09/2015 13:00

Comment on the FB post 'I don't think you're a shit mother, but I do think you're a shit person and I'm very disappointed that you lied to purposefully mislead me.'
I know it is childish, but I would have no problem calling my own sister out. I wouldn't do it to a friend though. Depends on your relationship.

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Lemonfizzypop · 05/09/2015 13:01

What is the point of this thread? Did you at any point believe she was being reasonable? I find it hard to believe you need reassurance about this.

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BoulevardOfBrokenSleep · 05/09/2015 13:03

It sounds like your sister is in a pretty dark place, mentally.

Must be difficult coping with 3 under 4 and a partner working away. Especially if you are of the mindset that all their food must be hand-crafted from organic veg and unicorns...

And if she was at the end of her tether, and lied to you to get a day off, the competitive side of her must be really pissed off that you coped fine. Let's face it, she was always going to find something that you'd done 'wrong'.

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