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This isn't junk food

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MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 12:08

About 10.30 Thursday night my Dsis asked me to babysit 3DNs who are under the age of 4. She said she had to work, usually she only works Monday to Wednesday with the kids at the CM. So I said yes. I needed to call my boss Friday morning to get emergency annual leave.

She dropped them off at 7.30am and said they needed breakfast. I don't have kids and as it was short notice I didn't have time to go buy specific food for the kids I fed them what I had in. So this is what they had:

Breakfast - toast, cornflakes, banana, milk
Snack - chopped apple, plain yogurt
Lunch - wholemeal bread beans on toast, carrot sticks on the side, handful of raisins
Snack - carrot + celery sticks, hummus
Dinner - homemade pizza using shop bought wholemeal bases, tomato, vegetables, chicken, cheese, bowl of frozen yogurt.

My Dsis picked up the kids at 6.30pm. Everything seemed fine. I got a text from her saying I was a shit auntie, I fed the kids shit junk food all day, that she won't be letting me babysit again etc.Confused I tried to call her be she won't answer.

I don't have kids and I couldnt get to the shops (no car seats, its a good 30 minute walk) so i think what I gave the kids was decent. I ate it too. Sure beans on toast isn't great but its not shit ffs. Is it? Was I unreasonable? TIA

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Notoedike · 05/09/2015 13:05

None of this makes any sense.

SamVJ888 · 05/09/2015 13:06

I looked after my niece as a then 17 year old (sister is 10 years older than me) and didn't feed her at all, my excuse was my sister didn't explicitly tell me to feed her so how did I know! Now that's a shit auntie, tell her to piss off Grin

MadisonMontgomery · 05/09/2015 13:08

I would be screenshotting your text conversation & putting it on fb with the truth about what actually happened! You are so not a shit auntie, & I'm sure she isn't a shit mum, but she IS a shit sister.

MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 13:14

I can that emergency annual leave (you usually have to give 48hours notice) as I am my DNS emergency contact. I have had to do it before when one of them was sick at the cm and their mum was working.

My other Dsis agrees with her. Dsis2 also has kids so has said as I'm not a mum I wouldn't understand why I'm shit and why I don't deserve to be one. I started this thread so I could show it to both of them.

I know this is more than just food ffs but this is the latest thing to make feel bad about myself. Sad

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TheSpottedZebra · 05/09/2015 13:17

It really doesn't ring true that an employer would give emergency leave to someone for their niece or nephew. Certainly no employer that I know of.

Sighing · 05/09/2015 13:18

If your sisters feel that you don't deserve children then they are irresponsible in leaving their children with you. They are inconsistent and you'd be better off going NC.

McPie · 05/09/2015 13:29

So she left her kids with you at short notice, lied to you about why so she could go and have some kid free time, hoped you would fail and when you didn't called you a shit aunt? Bloody hell she has some nerve!
I would step away and refuse her support in future as she is obviously trying to get you to re-think your plan to have children. From how you handled the day I would expect you to be a pretty decent mum and wish you luck in trying.

MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 13:29

I work for a small family business. My boss is very family oriented and has agreed I can use my annual leave at short notice along as its not in December and march (end of tax year).

Sighing - yes apparently I'm good enough to babysit but not to be a mum.

I'm done. I was stupid to think this thread would make me feel better or show my sisters they are wrong. I'm a fucking Muppet.

I love my Dns but I can't be a mug anymore. I have texted both sisters that I won't be available to babysit anymore and have said don't contact me or DH. I've deleted them from Facebook.

My DM and DDad are upset on my behalf but won't get involved encase sis uses the Dncs against them.

Thanks for the comments.

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luciferswench · 05/09/2015 13:39

Are your sisters morons? Do they always like to make you feel like you are in the wrong?
Sounds like a good thing telling them to fuck off.

Pico2 · 05/09/2015 13:39

What a horrible experience. It sounds so unlikely because so few people would behave that badly. Is your other sister normally that odd too?

Quietlifenotonyournelly · 05/09/2015 13:56

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Strokethefurrywall · 05/09/2015 13:57

If true, then your sisters are cunts and your parents are spineless for enabling them.

Better off without them.

MrHamstar · 05/09/2015 13:59

My sisters are tall thin and beautiful, I am not. When we were younger they both would gang up on me but they haven't done this for years. Until now.

My sister husband is working away and has been away about two weeks he is due back at the end of the month. My Dncs go to my DParents every other weekend and go to their other DGParents the other two weekends.

Sis1 has just phoned DH apparently it was just a miss understanding. She thought she had to work but realised that she didn't. She was just 'joking' about. I will be ^allowed^ to babysit in the future.

DH said eh no your alright.Hmm

I'm feeling pretty down on myself at the moment. DH would be an amazing father and its my fault he isn't one.

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WorraLiberty · 05/09/2015 14:02

I have nothing to add except that's one huge breakfast for an under 4 year old Wink Grin

FarFromAnyRoad · 05/09/2015 14:02

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NorksAreMessy · 05/09/2015 14:02
WaggleBee · 05/09/2015 14:06

Saying you'd be a bad parent and it's lucky you're not after you've had MCs and you're ttc is unforgivable never mind anything else.

You know that's bullshit don't you? How the fuck does she know? You know you'll be great parents.

They both sound abhorrent. Like the ugly stepsisters or something. I'd cut them out. There'd be no coming back from saying something as bad as that.

Mintyy · 05/09/2015 14:08

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 05/09/2015 14:11

OK. If this is a made up thread then so be it, but assuming it isn't then your sisters are having a fucking laugh.

They're setting you up to laugh at you.
One says she has to work, you take emergency time off and she does fuck all for the day? You feed her kids decent food and she has a go at you because she lied to you and because you feed them better food than she would?
The other one then takes her side and says it's your own fault and that you don't deserve to be a mum because you'd be shit at it?

And somewhere down the line your parents aren't able to stand up to them because why?

It's extremely hard to believe, tbh. If it's true, I'm very very sorry for you that they're such appalling humans. :(

AbbyCadabra · 05/09/2015 14:11

Threads like these always, always have live updates, don't they?

AwesomeAF · 05/09/2015 14:26

Love the "just joking" thing your sis has now started. Of course she'll sweep it under the rug, she still has use for you.

Time to grow a backbone OP and call them both out when they're bitches to you. You're not a doormat.

slithytove · 05/09/2015 14:42

Authenticity of thread aside..
My 11 month old can and does eat that for breakfast Grin

IonaMumsnet · 05/09/2015 16:01

Afternoon folks. We've had a lot of reports about this thread so we're going to contact the OP and see if we can find out what's what. In the meantime, we're going to suspend this thread because it has become a bit of a troll hunt.

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