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AIBU?

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0x530x610x750x630x79 · 04/09/2015 09:22

My daughter was a bridesmaid at the weekend. The bride wants the dress back in case her daughter ever wants it.
I want to put it away to keep as a reminder (we don't know many unmarried people she wont be a bridesmaid loads).

Who is being unreasonable?

OP posts:
Lj8893 · 04/09/2015 09:23

Who paid for it?

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 04/09/2015 09:23

Who paid for the dress?

LurkingQuietly · 04/09/2015 09:23

Who paid for the dress?

Original poster
0x530x610x750x630x79 · 04/09/2015 09:23

I am now going out for the day so wont be back till early evening, i haven't run away in case you all hate me.

OP posts:
StillStayingClassySanDiego · 04/09/2015 09:24

Before you go, who paid?

RainbowFlutterby · 04/09/2015 09:25

If the bride paid YABU.
If you paid YANBU.

AliceAlice1979 · 04/09/2015 09:26

Normally the bridesmaid keeps the dress but I agree, knowing who paid for it is important to know who IBU.
Have a nice day out op. Thanks for leaving us I'm suspense.

PurpleDaisies · 04/09/2015 09:26

It is very odd to ask for the dress back. Did you know about it in advance?

On the other hand I wouldn't want to pack away a pretty dress if I were the bride I'd prefer it to get worn by your daughter.

On balance I think the bride is being unreasonable but I'd probably give it back anyway.

Original poster
0x530x610x750x630x79 · 04/09/2015 09:30

She did

OP posts:
cookielove · 04/09/2015 09:31

She did isn't clear enough!

Lj8893 · 04/09/2015 09:31

Well if she paid then I think she is entitled to ask for it back. It's unusual to ask for it back but I don't think she is being unreasonable.

If you would like to keep it could you offer to pay her for it?

Original poster
0x530x610x750x630x79 · 04/09/2015 09:33

I could offer to pay her for it, i was just just a little taken back.

OP posts:
CakeNinja · 04/09/2015 09:34

She did pay for it?
Didn't you take any photos as a reminder?

Yabu.

QuiteLikely5 · 04/09/2015 09:35

Fgs just give it back to her. In the grand scheme of things it is just a dress. Yes I think she is an embarrassment for asking but some people are just crazy.

coconutpie · 04/09/2015 09:35

Give it back - she paid for it.

AliceAlice1979 · 04/09/2015 09:36

Odd thing to do on her part, but if she paid you can't easily argue back. I can see why you'd be miffed tho. What kind of dress was it? Can it easily be reworn? Some bridesmaids dresses are so obviously bridesmaid dresses they are next to useless unless you want to walk down aisles holding flowers.

OwlinaTree · 04/09/2015 09:41

Give it back. Honestly, she'll never probably look at it much and you can't keep everything unless you live ina mansion. Get a lovely picture from the wedding of her in it and put it on the wall.

MackerelOfFact · 04/09/2015 09:42

I've never re-worn a bridesmaid dress, they just end up taking up loads of space. It's unlikely that either DD will actually ever want to wear it, so just give it back to the bride since she paid for it. Press the flowers from the posy or something if you want a keepsake.

CaptainSwan · 04/09/2015 09:42

Totally weird that she's asked for it back but she's fully within her rights to considering she paid for it.

Theycallmemellowjello · 04/09/2015 09:44

I think it's fine to ask for it back if she paid.

OTheHugeManatee · 04/09/2015 09:45

Give it back. Rather tacky (and tight) of the bride to reclaim it IMO but she paid for it so shrug your shoulders and be graceful.

ScOffasDyke · 04/09/2015 09:45

My DD wore her bridesmaid dress to bits after the wedding. She was 3 and loved it. Why keep an unworn dress? Let your DD enjoy wearing it. Tell the bride it's been ripped or is dirty

specialsubject · 04/09/2015 09:55

give it back if she paid for it. Take a photo of it.

let the bride have the clutter!

Osolea · 04/09/2015 09:57

If she paid, it's fine for her to ask for it back. The nicer thing for her to do would be to gift it to your dd to say thank you, but if she gave a different thank you gift then I wouldn't think worse of the bride for wanting the dress back.

Lots of brides do this to try and resell the dresses when they've been on a tight budget.

AlphabetStew · 04/09/2015 10:20

She paid for it, it's hers, give it back.

HTH

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